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[The_Wife]

I already posted in the introductions thread, but I thought I would stop in here and say hello.

Long story short is my husband has officially been diagnosed PTSD, cPTSD and a few others that my brain isn't remembering for some reason. It has been a bit of a rocky road getting just to -this- point and there is so much more to go yet.

I have been reading some of the threads over the board and I am just glad to know that I'm not the only one out there having issues with helping a loved one who is having issues. Its really hard to manage some days and has gotten worse since he started this latest treatment. At least the therapist he is seeing seems to have a clue. I am hoping that -some- headway is made before we have to move once again (military family, we leave here in 2-3 years).

That is the jist of it. The long drawn out story is up in the introductions if you'd like to read it. I'll see you all around. =)

 

[amethist]

Hi and welcome to the supports side of PTSD. I have read your Introduction, but thought I would welcome you here.

You are definitely not the only one going through this with a partner, military or not, it is still tough going for the rest of the family.

Learning how to take care of, and put yourself first at times, is an important part of being a supporter. You do sometimes have to be selfish and leave them to it for a few hours at times, just to keep your own sense of reality. Not always easy, we know, but it can help you to keep going.

Even when they turn against us, we some how have to remember it is not about us, it is about how the PTSD is effecting them. Setting some boundaries of what you will and wont except in how he treats you is important, if you would not except something before PTSD, then dont except it now.

Relationships can and do work with PTSD in the mix, as long as you can both work together, even if it is just showing each other that you still want to be together and can show each other in small ways daily.

It does get easier in time, with patience and understanding from you, along with hard work and respect from your sufferer.

Take care and keep going, it can and does work out well in time.

Amethist

 

[ISupportHer]

Hi, I am slow to respond but I wanted to say it's good to have you here. It is a great source of support here!

ISH

 

[Ladyhope Somerset]

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Relationships can and do work with PTSD in the mix, as long as you can both work together, even if it is just showing each other that you still want to be together and can show each other in small ways daily.

It does get easier in time, with patience and understanding from you, along with hard work and respect from your sufferer.

Take care and keep going, it can and does work out well in time.

Amethist

Now that is the voice of experience! Thanks for the reassurance :tup:. It's so important to hear it from people who know.

 

[The_Wife]

Thank you so much for the kind words. I know I haven't posted since June. Life has been... crazy is the best way to describe it. But every so often I have been sneaking back to simply read things here and there. We are still struggling a bit, but two steps forward one step back is still some progress. One of the main reasons for his issues actually came to visit over the summer and he did an amazing job not triggering every five minutes like he thought he would. He even was able to confront her about a lot of what happened to him. It was so freeing for him and I could see that in his eyes, but that didn't last all that long. Even still, we are hanging on tight.

I shall see you all around, and once again thank you, from the bottom of my heart.