Supporter Broken Heart

[conz]

sue, im just curious.. have you been here in the forum for long time? is my experience similar to others that you know..

 

[wife of]

Been here nearly a year and yep your problems are quite typical,get yourself reading through the intro section and the supporters section.Also check out the sistersite to this called combatptsd you cant join but it might be of use to him. You should however do some reading on there to get some idea of his perspective and make sure you watch the video...it will explain a lot to you.

 

[conz]

Thank you so much Sue. You have been on great help. I will have a look on those sections.

Take Care.

 

[conz]

Sue, Im so depress right now.I was trying not communicate with him anymore because its not helping me to move on. Today, he burst with all anger to me. Bombarded me with sms why did i leave him. He said all the bad things about me. I did not want to reply but he said he was really sick wanted some advice from me. I was doublful if he was really sick. Then he said he was still drunk.. I dropped him an meail saying that I wont communicate with him for the meantime. Did I make a right move? I do not want him to do something supid that his family might blame me at the end. Do I still need to talk to him?

I do love him. As you said, emotions should be set aside first. He kept on asking when I will be back in the Phils. Oh god, Im so much stressed.

Please advice. Thank you.

 

[wife of]

You mention that you do not wish to communicate as you feel you should move on.

Given that this is the choice you have made, I think the best thing you can do for both yourself and the guy in question Is to send him one email making this point perfectly clear ,wishing him well and pointing out that you will not be replying ,unless of course your aim is to offer friendship. If you want to try the friendship route then you need to set limits as to how and when you contact each other.

Do however make sure you make your intentions as clear as a bell,to keep him dangling on a thread of false hopes would be cruel.

Also remember that you are not responsible for any future decisions he may make for himself.

It is not fair to either of you to remain in a relationship purely because you fear he may harm himself.

Make your mind up as quickly as possible and then stick with it.

Thats my opinion anyway,take it or leave it but remember he is responsible for him.

 

[Lady of Longbourn]

Welcome to the forum. :)