Sexual Assault Can Finally Let It All Out... Well Most Of It.

[Shannon]

I wouldn't go anywhere near them, I don't think it would be physically possible, every time I see them I freeze, its like im glued to the floor, and i start to shake and just cry!

Thank you so much for all your help and kind words!

 

[leanne1321]

Hi Shannon,

I sympathise with your jealousy and it's normal. You've been through a horrific experience that no-one and I mean no-one should have to go through and of course that is going to make you feel much more weary. Your eyes have been opened to a big bad world that most people can't even imagine.

It sounds as though you are putting a lot of blame on yourself for being a normal teenager. As I said, who didn't drink? And flirting is an important part of growing up, I still do it now, there's nothing wrong with a bit of flirting and it definately isn't an invitation for sex or rape.

Muzik is right, it was premeditated, which means that they probably would have done it anyway, don't blame yourself. Youth is full of naivity, everyone has to grow up and you were robbed of that so early.

In normal circumstances, you lose that naivity as you grow into an adult and take on more responsibility, having serious relationships, learning to drive, getting your own place and eventually marraige and children.

You've had to grow up before your time and you envy those who haven't. But know you know how bad the world can be and because of that, you can learn to be much more vigilant.

 

[Shannon]

That's all so true, I just sometimes don't feel like I'm part of my group of friends as I almost always end up going in, and not take part in partying they all understand and say that we don't have to drink and stuff but I don't wan't to ruin their fun. And right now as I'm writing this I've actually just made myself realise how stupid I'm being, I should just go out and have fun with them. But I am to scared something will happen again. I freak out every time a boy approaches me, even to talk as friends because I do not have that trust in people any more, after thinking I could trust those other boys.. its confusing really..:/

I feel that my relationship with my boyfriend is a serious relationship we've been together all but 8months now, and i do have strong feelings for him. But then again, I am only 15 years old.

Do you think that I should be brave, and just go out and if I feel uncomfortable just go home, or wait until I feel 100% confidence in going out, before even trying?

 

[Lucycat]

I think if you go out your confidence will slowly increase. Waiting for the confidence to come 100% is really hard as how will you know when you are there?

Go with people you know and are there for you. Obviously they want to be your friends and to help and support you, so let them.

Try and have fun, and have a back up plan ready. If you feel you need to go home early, have a safe way of doing so, and have it arranged that you do not need to explain yourself.

Life is for living and enjoying:dance:

 

[Shannon]

I think I will do that, and no the perfect time, its one of my close mates birthday next weekend, and they are all camping in her Garden and having a few drinks, think ill accept the invite to this:)

Thank you all so much.
I actually feel like I can do it, just keep thinking positive I geuss!:D