Relationship Can Ptsd Episodes Make You Revert To The Age Trauma Occured?

[Sideways]

She broke it off. Inserting yourself back into her life is not going to help her. As a PTSD sufferer, I can say that without any hesitation.

This. So much.

I'm really sorry your relationship ended. That hurts, and the hurt is directly proportional to how strong your feelings were.

But seriously, you can't pathologise your ex, or her behaviours. You don't have enough facts. Even if one of us was qualified to help you out there (which we're not), we don't have the facts.

The facts that we have? Are you broke up, and she's changed. And that's awful and painful. As a completely seperate issue, it's great to be informed about mental health in a general sense, but your interest here? It doesn't sound healthy. It sounds a lot like "She broke up with me and started behaving differently, there must be something wrong with her".

Maybe there is. You don't know. And unless she comes back into your life, you will never know. What you do know is: it's over. It could be ptsd. It could be a million different things (and then some). The only certainty is: it's over.

Like I said, general education about mental health? Great! Go for it. Pathologising someone after they've broken up with you? Not great. Not great at all.

 

[Abigail7]

I feel the need to weigh in and say that it is hurtful to describe potential mental health reactions as not normal. This serves to further stigmatize mental illnesses. I see all you've described and can relate to most of it. In my years of wandering the Internet and meeting PTSD friends offline as well, I have seen such reactions in others quite often as well. I understand that you care about this woman, but if you tell her that she's not acting in a normal manner, I think this is the fastest way to end up blocked by her in every which way and never have her contact you again. Maybe, just maybe, could you accept that her behavior is a normal reaction to abnormal circumstances? It's very normal to numb out from pain in any way you can, and run as far away from the pain as you can. So you see, her behavior is actually as normal as you can get once you understand the underlying mechanism. That is, the mechanism is run hard as you can from pain (terror). Does this help clear things up?