Chastised and humble ...

[Torch]

I'm not sure what your point is about turning this into some kind of complicated pseudo-problem.

We are not reading the situation the same.

If I were Riverdog- joining a new community and I were hit with multiple passive-aggressive replies from multiple community members by a simple icebreaker introduction?

I probably would not have returned, with or without a ban. Full stop. Thats a person not getting help.
To me, this reads as a problem.

My question to the forum and moderators- Is this really acceptable behavior from the community members? And if it’s not, what can be done? Controlling others is not realistic.

Passive-aggression breeds passive-aggression. Riverdog simply responded to the passive-aggression with passive aggression and was banned.
I cant blame Riverdog for responding to passive-aggression with passive-aggression. That seems pretty par course.

What is being said by the community when no one, especially the mods, speak up against members ganging up on a new member?

If I truly am making a big deal out of nothing, than feel free to continue ignoring me.

If what I write makes you stop and think, perhaps this behavior is not acceptable. What can be done from a moderating standpoint to ensure that a new member isn’t jumped on by confused at best, aggressive and cruel at worst, forum members?

My suggestion is making the Community Agreement more visible and accessible, like the copyright notice.

I’m definitely open to more ideas an solutions.

 

[Rose White]

jumped on by confused, aggressive

This is your read on it. None of those qualities are definitive truths of the situation, merely your personal interpretation. When you take your personal interpretation and make it truth you invent a problem. (Oddly I am doing this in my own life right now and seeing myself write this out is an uncanny moment.)

 

[Torch]

This is your read on it. None of those qualities are definitive truths of the situation, merely your personal interpretation. When you take your personal interpretation and make it truth you invent a problem. (Oddly I am doing this in my own life right now and seeing myself write this out is an uncanny moment.)

Yes, this is my read on the situation. A read that no one else seems to have, so I have chosen to speak up and share what I see.
I am especially motivated to speak up when what I see is a glaring inequality and injustice.

 

[Ecdysis]

It was a moderator who initially asked in that thread "what kind of engagement are you looking for? Genuine question" which is a normal and helpful question asked around here, and that caused the first "issue".

So yeah, I have literally no clue what on earth you are on about. You are seeing ghosts. It was a normal conversation with mostly neutral and well-intentioned replies.

 

[Sideways]

Mod Note:

What can be done from a moderating standpoint to ensure that a new member isn’t jumped on by confused at best, aggressive and cruel at worst, forum members?

You can hit Report, and the Mods will deal with the situation as is appropriate.

If everyone could take a step back now, that would appreciated, as this now a conversation about @RiverDog , rather than with them.

Anyone who has suggestions about how the forum can be improved, take it to Contact so you can have a conversation with the appropriate person about it. This is not the place.

@Torch - your suggestion was considered, and a decision was made not to take any further action. If you want to discuss that further, use Contact. You are now highjacking this thread for your own purposes.

 

[Torch]

Mod Note:

You can hit Report, and the Mods will deal with the situation as is appropriate.

If everyone could take a step back now, that would appreciated, as this now a conversation about @RiverDog , rather than with them.

Anyone who has suggestions about how the forum can be improved, take it to Contact so you can have a conversation with the appropriate person about it. This is not the place.

@Torch - your suggestion was considered, and a decision was made not to take any further action. If you want to discuss that further, use Contact. You are now highjacking this thread for your own purposes.

Thank you for informing me about the 'report' feature.

I was completely unaware of how these processes go and what they look like.

Now that I know, I can use this information going forward in the future.

 

[Torch]

Wow, I really did read this situation wrong. My perception of the passive-aggression and group attacks on Riverdog were fueled my intrusive trauma thoughts and emotions.

@Dark.Green.Feathers and whoever else I might have implied and accused of passively-attacking Riverdog, I am sorry. I see now that you were not being passive aggressive. My own trauma and past were clouding my perception here and got the better of me. I know it can hurt to be on the receiving ends of these kinds of misperceptions.

I'm going to have to take some time to unpack what I perceived as a threat here.
In a weird way, thank you for bringing my attention to whatever this internalized trauma is so I can work through it. Hopefully sooner rather than later.