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Reached Out And Got Chastised For It

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I've become better at spotting people that lack empathy and keeping my distance. I think when I was younger, I did just the opposite, perhaps because they reminded me of the bystanders in my young life.

Messed up isn't it?

But as my therapist says, I did the best I could do as a child, young man, and so on. It's OK to look back as long as you don't dwell on it and know you can do better going forward.
 
The best part is they asked me what I was hoping to accomplish by doing this. I said: "I was trying to save myself." I thought it was pretty obvious.

You know... I've been thinking about this off & on today. Mostly because I've been having a culture war inside my head lately.

Did you know in some cultures, telling someone you're suicidal is asking for them to kill you? In some of those cultures, It's a position of honor, and trust, and not something undertaken lightly. Unless you were desperate, it would only be asked of your closest friends/family. Because it places an obligation on the person who does it to take care of what you leave behind. Although that varies by culture, too. In one I know of it includes marrying your wife, raising your kids,taking care of your parents... As well as assuming debts & disposing of your body & estate & other more commonly (here) thought of "final business". In a few others, it's asking them to bear your shame, because you're not strong enough to kill yourself by yourself. Again, though, suicide is seen as honorable, not anathema. Culture is quirky. What's "understood", what's "obvious" rarely translates.

Here in the West, telling someone you're suicidal in almost the same thing as asking for help in not killing yourself. It's usually seen that way, at least, although not always. I don't know enough about Russian culture to be able to speak to what would be obvious, there. Nor how suicide is seen. Do you?
 
Thank you all for responding, it makes me feel much better to know that there are some people out there who understand where I was coming from. I didn't contact them and start screaming "I'm going to kill myself!" I asked my roommate to use his modem so i could call a crisis hotline (my internet was down and i didn't have the #). He responded with "that's your problem, fix your modem" and hanging up. Just want to make it clear that I never intended to bother them with this, i just couldn't reach a crisis hotline. Anyway, I don't think I will be talking to these people again. @scout86 - I am still hoping to move back home to the States, but right now i am more or less trapped for financial reasons. Starting to feel like the walls are closing in but I hope I get back some day.
 
@Casey_03 , that's a rough situation to be in, for sure. And it doesn't help having everything happening at once. Is there anything the embassy can do to help you out? (Any chance crowd sourcing would work? I'd be willing to chip in to help pay for a ticket. :))

Meanwhile, are you doing better?

Take care!
 
@scout86, Yes, I'm feeling better. Storm has passed. Very kind of you to offer to help get me back home, but I'm afraid it's more complicated than that - I left so long ago I no longer have any foundations there, will take me a while to save up money for an apartment and living expenses back home. The economic crisis here has just set me back a bit, but I'll make it eventually!
 
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