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Child Crisis Emergency Help!!!!!!!!! (complex Child Trauma Ptsd Domestic Violence)

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WhiteOwl

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12 Year old Boy, in sole custody of single mother. Boy was brought to emergency room by mother due to violence (boy re-creating domestic violence of father against both himself and mother, as well as all the secondary problems from the core trauma of violence, anxiety, dissociative, oppositional defiance, avoidance, on and on ) within the home.

BOY HISTORY
Boy raised within home of abusive, violent, alcoholic father (physical and emotional violence both to boy and mother) from the age of birth through age 8. Repeated and continually events of abuse to boy and mother, week in, week out over those 8 years, until mother escaped home with child. Boy further was involved in hit and run accident, at 8, which involved brain trauma and additionally, it was discovered had frontal right brain lobe cyst.

Boy entered NC Mental Health System through mother, given wrong diagnosis (ADHD), at age 8, which included anti psychotic drugs and therapy, which was a complete therapeutic failure for the boy. Boy sent home with mother, to devolve into worse condition over the years to present state and condition.

PRESENT SITUATION
At emergency room, boy put under NC involuntary commitment within an acute mental health intake facility. Mother repeatedly both in writing and verbally told the clinic that he was a danger to her life and his. Mother paid privately for an psychological intake assessment (PTSD was given as the first Axis 1) prior to this event. Boy was just discharged back into her custody by acute intake facility, telling her that brain cyst was the problem and to see a neurologist.

Boy gets home with mother (who is his PTSD "trigger" for the dissassciative and violence) and is now right back to attempting to control, dominate and "run" the mother and if she doesnt comply, he deploys violence against her.

Mother seeks not to criminal charge the boy but to find an inpatient facility for him but the life of the mother and the boy are at stake right now.

This is deadly circle right now both the both of them with absolutely NO HELP to be had!!!

ANY SUGGESTIONS would be greatly appreciated! Thank you.
 
I'm a bit confused?.... Involuntary commitment here is a 72 hour hold (minimum). Or was he released back to his mom the same day?

Can you go to another emergency room? I know you don't want to get the police involved, but sometimes parents have to make tough choices.

I think I'm sort of blown away that bad behavior can be excused by a brain cyst when the child is a threat to himself and others. Really, it shouldn't matter WHY someone is a threat to themselves or others as its crucial to ensure safety first, and then treat second when the situation is so dire.
 
I'm lost on what NC is an abbreviation for. Is there a university affiliated hospital in the area? They would probably have the resources to help with both the psychological and biological aspect of the young man's situation. I'm surprised the acute mental health facility didn't advise a transfer to a more suitable treatment center. Some programs may not offer assistance without the mother bringing criminal charges, as heartbreaking as it may be for his mother that could help the young man in the long run. his brain injury and cyst are considered a cognitive impairment, that could be another way to find the right kind of help for both him and his mother. I'm not sure how the child/adolescent acute care programs go now, but when I was young and in such places that's how some of the other kids got the right kinds of help.
 
Hi,
Thank you for your comments. To answer your questions-
a) Boy was held the minimum and then released back to Mom.
b) the emergency rooms statewide all do the same, feed the child into the (available bed) acute intake facility--- 3 "acute intake facilities" refused him saying no beds.
c) Our thoughts exactly this is absolutely unbelievable!!!!!!!!!
 
Hi Spiderallis-
Thank you for your comments. NC stands for North Carolina. We have already contacted both UNC-Chapel Hill and Duke University, both have out patient only services at this time and due to the critical situation of boy and mother home conditions that is secondary pursuits because of time.

Yes, we have discussed exactly what you mean, the bringing of criminal charges, for possible best care in the long run. We were told by the Juvenile Justice Officer that " that should be your very last option as you dont want the boy in this system" as he didn't think the boy would receive the care needed.

Thank you again for comments!
 
Can she just refuse to take him home? Here, those who make the most noise get what they need, eventually, which I am sorry to say. If the brain cyst is indeed a factor, a double reason to keep him in and have him treated. This is a travesty for both the child and his Mom. Wondering if some media attention (initiated by Mom) would hasten things a little. Grasping at straws here, but these two sound like they are falling through the cracks.
 
I don't know all the factors involved but that poor boy needs some serious containment. Charge him with the police and then agitate through your local political member for appropriate mental health and physical health treatment.

Dropping the boy off at a police station might be the beginning of tough love that he needs.

Mother needs an advocate to navigate through the system.

If a child becomes a ward of the state in Australia, in NSW they receive good medical treatment, anecdotal evidence only.
 
Other way of doing it would be to take boy to a women's refuge and ask for them to help her get him help because she is scared for her life.
 
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