Colorful and hopefully optimistic but maybe hateful occasionally

[ILoveLife]

I'm Mini. It was my nickname for 20 years. Some people don't even know my real name

 

[littleoc]

Trueeee

I think over where I am (southern US) we were more concerned with race than anything else. Not sure though! I might just be too young to have felt the full climate.

I like Mini! Do you say it the English way or the Portuguese way? lol

 

[ILoveLife]

It's the same way! :)

 

[somerandomguy]

I had rabbits for years. I'm a rabbit expert.

Most rabbits will go in a litter box.

Most rabbits will bite you before they kick you. Both hurt like hell, but I'd probably rather be kicked. Rabbits are ferocious killing machines, but only to other rabbits. They're hugely territorial.

I don't really like to talk about rabbits because of reasons.

I hope you got to sleep, @littleoc.

 

[Freida]

also I’m afraid of being ostracized for having weird shit happen.

Seriously? Have you read the diaries on this site? Darling we ALL have weird shit happen... That's what makes us special! :laugh::hug:

So if people acted afraid of me, then... well, I guess they need therapy?

why o why would you make me snort coffee out of my nose this early in the morning! :laugh: I can't even wrap my mind around someone being afraid of you. So yes, if they are there they definitely use therapy!

I think I need help figuring this out. I think I need to hire people and get things clean, get her a personal nurse.

Nope

I have decided it’s not my responsibility. B

Yes! I love that you are getting to the point of determining what is your responsibility and what isn't. That's huge

My sister is an enaler right now.

Yes, she is obviously an enabler. So..... I say this with love..... aren't you too? You are doing so much to try to help her when she doesn't want to be fixed. So you do things for her and try to redirect her and make excuses for her behavior. You are trying to keep her alive which is fabulous of you. But you are not requiring her to take ownership of her own behaviors.

Now, after saying all that I admit I'm not really knowledgeable of how the whole co-dependent thing works, but I know lots of people around here are. It might be worth a conversation with them?

 

[littleoc]

It's the same way! :)

Lol, oh! I assumed the “i” would be different, but it’s easier that it isn’t!

I hope you got to sleep, @littleoc.

I hope you did, too! :D

Now, after saying all that I admit I'm not really knowledgeable of how the whole co-dependent thing works, but I know lots of people around here are. It might be worth a conversation with them?

Hmmmm maybe. Except I don’t have this problem with other people. I’m just very sick of being here at this point.

Meanwhile after my mom told my sister that she was supposed to be in the ER, she gave my mom a slice of cake. Seemed a bit weird.

I’m not a bad guy though. But the reason I’m even actually awake is because the mail pile of her mail is now too big for me to add to it. I might just shred it all.

why o why would you make me snort coffee out of my nose this early in the morning! :laugh:

Why not??? It’s the best medicine!.... the snorting?

Have you read the diaries on this site? Darling we ALL have weird shit happen... That's what makes us special! :laugh::hug:

Okay, fair. Lol. It doesn’t seem weird when you guys talk about it!

 

[ILoveLife]

Lol, oh! I assumed the “i” would be different, but it’s easier that it isn’t

Generally it is.. not on this word though. :)

I don't like the idea of codependency, it's not how it works like people assume it is. It's an enabler idea, which is valid, but not a diagnosis or a recognized symptom of anything. Besides, pathologizing ourselves with non-existing pathologies is just wacko! :P
And I don't think you shouldn't help, and I know some people are so deep in their stuff they don't know how to take responsibility for themselves. I do think however, you can help from a distance. I don't think the solution is not help at all or help too much to the point of enabling, is what I'm saying. But I do think you're aware of that, or starting to be more aware of that.

 

[Freida]

I don't like the idea of codependency, it's not how it works like people assume it is.

ahhh! I was taking a huge guess -- I like your ideas way better :)

 

[littleoc]

I might start a thread about this because it's distressing, but also I'm embarrassed and not sure how to share. I just keep thinking about the pain pills. I know where they're stored and my mom won't need any more.

 

[littleoc]

I held the bottle for a moment and then put it back. There are four pills left.

On a different note, Fungus is apparently upset today? I won't get into it, though.

 

[littleoc]

Wait, no. I'm upset.

 

[somerandomguy]

:hug: