Sufferer Complex (P)TSD - How can we recover if you can't get away from TRAUMA?

[Njenlyn71]

I've been diagnosed with
C-PTSD. My 2 children and I have been going through poly victimization. It all began in July 2008 and It just has not stopped. These, terrible, complex, and rather odd, extenuating circumstances have continued without relief. We are all still alive and it's hard to believe that. Because the trauma has been multiple, without ceasing, and with no resolution it is a complete morass... Legally, financially, socially, physically, and of course mentally.
How Can we recover if you can't get away from TRAUMA? I have diligently been doing all that I possibly can to resolve all the issues, from the beginning to the present time. Most important, I am a full time mother and a full time caretaker for my father, so they come first. They are well taken care of. Not so much myself. The amount of time and effort this takes leaves little time for little me to accomplish what I need to do... mostly alone. So, I say my true diagnosis Should be COMPLEX TSD. (Minus the P). July 2008- Present time. I'd like to meet 1 person who can identify with my situations. Mind you, I've been told by attorneys that this is all case law. My psychiatrist, who is Director of Medicine over many mental health facilities, has told me that I am not crazy. He can't understand how I have gone through so much and that I am still sane &/or alive. As well as, In all his years of experience, he has never met another person like me.
I am stuck in some kinda purgatory. HELLO? IS THERE ANYONE HERE WHO CAN RELATE? I'm available for questions. Please. Thank you.

 

[littleoc]

If there’s one thing I’ve learned while being on this site: even if it looks like you have the most unique trauma in the world, someone’s been there before. You’re never alone.

I currently take care of my mom.

Do you have PTSD outside of your current stress? It sounds like you are going through a lot right now, but I do want to clarify that PTSD is a disorder that sticks around years afterward. A moderator can give details.

Welcome to the forums :hug: Are you in therapy?

 

[Teasel]

Hi, welcome to the forum :)

Had to look up poly victimization, hadn't come across that term before. And yeah based on the little I read as a kid n teen and young adult it applies to me.

Interested to know what your understanding of poly victimization is, as I say it's a new term to me.

Welcome anyways :)

 

[Friday]

These, terrible, complex, and rather odd, extenuating circumstances have continued without relief.

HELLO? IS THERE ANYONE HERE WHO CAN RELATE? I'm available for questions. Please. Thank you.

I'd like to meet 1 person who can identify with my situations.

If you’re willing to share what those situations are, it would help find people with PTSD from similar backgrounds/trauma histories.

It’s super duper common with a lot of kinds of trauma for it to be active and ongoing for years &/or decades. Sometimes it’s not until it’s ALL over for a person to get symptomatic for the first time. More often? It strikes fairly early on... within the first few years... sometimes after a specific event, sometimes after the accumulation of countless events.

A few examples, not a complete list by any means, would include; child abuse, childhood sexual abuse, domestic violence, violent stalking, gang members, people living in gang/cartel territory, police/fire/medical/ social workers/ emergency medical personnel/ search & rescue, war correspondents and other kinds of journalism, prisoners, prisoners of war, active duty military, mercenary, child soldiers, civilians in a combat zone, civilians in an area of epidemic or famine or both, human trafficking, slavery, humanitarian aid workers, human rights workers, physiological anthropologists, extreme &/or backcountry sports athletes... and the list just keeps going. Including combinations of the above, and others.

How Can we recover if you can't get away from TRAUMA?

My experience & observation is that one usually doesn’t, during active trauma. Instead it’s more about treading water in a storm, until such a time as one can extricate themselves. Treading water can -& ideally does- involve learning coping mechanisms or healthier coping mechanisms, building support structures, learning resilience, learning emotional monitoring and regulation, and counties other skills that help people both in & out of trauma. But to really recover? Not just manage themselves and their disorder better? For most people that means first no longer be living in active an ongoing trauma.

 

[Ronin]

Hi, welcome.

In my experience so far the regulars of this site have had complex trauma & long term more often than a single event, unlike many other PTSD themed communities.

So I bet you will find someone to relate to your particular brand of trauma, and/or current issue, if looking around a time. :)

 

[Danu1977]

I am not sure specifically what you mean by polyvictimization, but I have had a lot of trauma throughout life, close to the whole 43 years of it, and would love another person to talk to about how the hell I can still smile after everything I've been through. My mother, ex-husband, 2 children, the system, and my current husband have had me in a life of constant stress. I am not complaining necessarily about my current husband, as he is a wartime veteran and his CPTSD consumes him now, though it didn't in the beginning. If you would like a friend, feel free to message me. :) Hugs!

I've been diagnosed with
C-PTSD. My 2 children and I have been going through poly victimization. It all began in July 2008 and It just has not stopped. These, terrible, complex, and rather odd, extenuating circumstances have continued without relief. We are all still alive and it's hard to believe that. Because the trauma has been multiple, without ceasing, and with no resolution it is a complete morass... Legally, financially, socially, physically, and of course mentally.
How Can we recover if you can't get away from TRAUMA? I have diligently been doing all that I possibly can to resolve all the issues, from the beginning to the present time. Most important, I am a full time mother and a full time caretaker for my father, so they come first. They are well taken care of. Not so much myself. The amount of time and effort this takes leaves little time for little me to accomplish what I need to do... mostly alone. So, I say my true diagnosis Should be COMPLEX TSD. (Minus the P). July 2008- Present time. I'd like to meet 1 person who can identify with my situations. Mind you, I've been told by attorneys that this is all case law. My psychiatrist, who is Director of Medicine over many mental health facilities, has told me that I am not crazy. He can't understand how I have gone through so much and that I am still sane &/or alive. As well as, In all his years of experience, he has never met another person like me.
I am stuck in some kinda purgatory. HELLO? IS THERE ANYONE HERE WHO CAN RELATE? I'm available for questions. Please. Thank you.

 

[Brandon]

It really is a nightmare to live with and I can feel your pain. God help anyone who lives with it.

 

[Mee]

Hi- welcome.

Sure; bet you loads of us will relate. My father lives with my husband and I and was certainly involved in circumstances that developed my mindset that made me prone to developing PTSD / cPTSD and yes- I don’t think I’ll really heal while he is here. I am not yet resolved to voice him needing to go.