Confused about a person becoming a substitute trigger?

[Meadowsweet]

I think writing is paying off. For the first time in a long time I've felt free to talk and not gagged with the fear that it will make things worse.

Simplekindofgirl, I think you're right when you say it is the whole puzzle. It makes it very difficult for me to understand where I will place boundaries in the future to stop it happening again. Or maybe I can't, and just have to learn what to do when I'm reacting.

Srain, I think you're right. I feel there is a side of my trauma that still feels like a no go zone. Hopefully I will get there with therapy.

A real friend is there when things are hard, and take the tough times alongside the good time, they offer practical support (such as supporting you to go to a dr), they are honest, sometimes you will clash, but a good friend will admit they are wrong and say sorry if they hurt you.

Belle, this is what I think a real friend should be like. Its what I try to be like to friends and I've put up with abusive situations because I stick with people too much through hard times, waiting for things to change. I think friends like this show the other end of the extreme. And somewhere in the middle, I think there is a balance I need to find.