Considering Contacting Someone I Cut Off

[Britt.f7]

It doesn't sound like this person is too healthy. I agree in that I don't think you are going to get the answers you may want to hear. Really, what answer could she give you that you don't possibly already know? That she is damaged you know. That she tried to damage you, and there is no good reason for that. What do you hope to accomplish by contacting her?

When I took my parent's back into my life I did a lot of soul searching. I still wanted family. I have accepted them in with limitations. I know what I can and can not expect out of them and they have finally heard my voice(not always). It hasn't been an easy road, but my mom and I established a decent relationship. My father, well, we try.

Thing is I had to know what I could and could not expect before even trying. I had to really think of what I expected to get out of reconnecting. I had to be very honest with myself.

I hope you do the same.

 

[DMerish]

Sometimes when I'm lonely or feeling depressed my mind goes to thinking about trying to re-connect with someone in my past, someone whom I determined was not good for me. I tried it with one person (a friend). Again, the relationship was not good. I'll never contact someone (friend or otherwise) that at one time I decided to let go. It's a waste of energy and time, precious time.

Trust yourself, Mytai. It really doesn't matter why your old "friend" did what they did. What matters is you discovered the relationship wasn't healthy and you don't want to go in that direction again. If it helps you, come up with your own theory why your friend acted the way they did - If you're able to do that then I think you'll not only learn how to learn something about keeping away from toxic people, but also about yourself. Good luck :hug:

 

[jmni]

Do you think it's possible that she could be amoral, immature, selfish, insane and a creep and a loser. The only thing that she did was hurt you and she clearly did it for selfish reasons. If she is she's never going to come out and say that. Nothing that she said could undue what she did.

 

[jmni]

Basically you really have a need to contact this person. But she's psychotic and a predator and a criminal. She probably has a record. She already hurt you and she's clearly very manipulative. For all of these reasons you should never contact her again in your life and as a result you feel deprived. Consider pressing charges.

 

[mytai]

Basically you really have a need to contact this person. But she's psychotic and a predator and a criminal. She probably has a record. ...Consider pressing charges.

She does have a record, but not for this kind of thing.

The problem with pressing charges is she has completely discredited me with the police at this point. She created an alibi for the person she sold me to, and told the police that I'm the one who suffers from DID when in fact she is the one who was diagnosed with DID. The police won't help me anymore, even with abuse unrelated to her.

 

[jmni]

Obviously this person is such a psycho there is no reason that you should ever contact her. You need to put this into perspective as a criminal act and stop worrying about how you felt because you were fooled. Imo, the police are not reliable for "abuse" in general. But pressing charges and prosecuting is you choice. Its not the decision of the police or in their control, it's in yours. Besides this is the kind of information the police look for. And as for her alibi's people may not believe them and there may be more holes in them than you realize. And her saying that you have a disorder means nothing. She's not a medical doctor and that is not a actual diagnosis. If you come forward more people may be willing to come forward against these people. If she did something like this, she may not be on the books for doing this but she definitely has done all kinds of other crazy things of a similar vein.