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Hei guys! thanks for your answers and opinions. Unfortunately, the decision of what to do is no longer with me. My friend, decided yesterday unequivocal that we should not see each other, not even as friends.
Yesterday, she called me around 8 PM to go for a walk. My mistake was that I accepted although I was not in a good state of mind. Stressed, I had a gesture that upset her and she closed. Asked to go home, she went and today in the morning she sent a message stating that for her is obvious that we cant be friends, that all was a mistake, she does not want to have anything to do with me.
As for me, it is obvious that she denies her problem. Whenever she says she does not want, she does not need a relationship, keep coming back to me the moments that she came back after "breaking up". At a certain level she wants, but she denies it to herself, blaming her. This is what I was able to understand from her behavior.
I will send her another message with info regarding PTSD and I can just hope that at some point she will choose to deal with her monsters.She deserves it, her son deserves it.
Till then, it is obvious that her being close to me hurts her, and until she does not actively decide to deal with it, I can´t be a part of her life, not even as a friend.
I should be happy, as a life with a ptsd sufferer, especially one that denies her condition should not be easy. But I am sad. It just breaks my heart as she does deserve better. She had passed through a lot of traumas, not just the rape. All her life was marked of bad examples. Starting with her parents, continuing with her marriage and all the men she met after.
Anyway, I do thank you for your patience. And I will keep staying around here, understanding what ptsd means, I think it made me a better person.
All the best for all of you.
Yesterday, she called me around 8 PM to go for a walk. My mistake was that I accepted although I was not in a good state of mind. Stressed, I had a gesture that upset her and she closed. Asked to go home, she went and today in the morning she sent a message stating that for her is obvious that we cant be friends, that all was a mistake, she does not want to have anything to do with me.
As for me, it is obvious that she denies her problem. Whenever she says she does not want, she does not need a relationship, keep coming back to me the moments that she came back after "breaking up". At a certain level she wants, but she denies it to herself, blaming her. This is what I was able to understand from her behavior.
I will send her another message with info regarding PTSD and I can just hope that at some point she will choose to deal with her monsters.She deserves it, her son deserves it.
Till then, it is obvious that her being close to me hurts her, and until she does not actively decide to deal with it, I can´t be a part of her life, not even as a friend.
I should be happy, as a life with a ptsd sufferer, especially one that denies her condition should not be easy. But I am sad. It just breaks my heart as she does deserve better. She had passed through a lot of traumas, not just the rape. All her life was marked of bad examples. Starting with her parents, continuing with her marriage and all the men she met after.
Anyway, I do thank you for your patience. And I will keep staying around here, understanding what ptsd means, I think it made me a better person.
All the best for all of you.
