Daughter’s Therapist Has Posted Over 650 Yelp Reviews

[Rebecca69]

I see the change as well but most of my family has passed. One has not.. She was part of my trauma, so no love lost there. IE-- Narcissist. The therapy I'm getting is an open to others vibe though.

Just wondering of your thoughts on a therapist who has written and posted over 650 Yelp reviews? My instinct was of alarm. It seems as though the therapist has a HUGE need to be heard, recognized, and have influence over what others think and do. She blogged about being "crushed" by the fact that she never met a man to have children with also. These "rants" are rather ominous as she is presently treating my teenage daughter from whom I am estranged. Comments? Thank you!!

 

[Chris-duck]

You quoted @Deanna's Gap in this post, is that your daughter or?

 

[Sideways]

You’re cyberstalking your daughter’s T. Stop doing that.

A teenager is likely to find someone posting online reviews pretty accurately pitched for the teenage generation. Online reviews: normal. You tracking that? Not normal.

It’s normal for many women to feel extremely distressed by not having their own children. Distress at never having your own children: normal. Having zero empathy for a person feeling that distress? Not normal.

Advice from me? Back off. This isn’t the way to re-establish a relationship with your daughter. To the contrary, it’s creepy. Stop it.

 

[joeylittle]

You quoted @Deanna's Gap in this post,

This topic was split off from the thread being quoted, and turned into its own thread. That's why the quote goes with a different thread.

It seems as though the therapist has a HUGE need to be heard, recognized, and have influence over what others think and do.

Or, the therapist is just active on some social media platforms....You're reading too much into this, IMO.

Advice from me? Back off. This isn’t the way to re-establish a relationship with your daughter. To the contrary, it’s creepy. Stop it.

Well put.

 

[Chris-duck]

This topic was split off from the thread being quoted, and turned into its own thread. That's why the quote goes with a different thread.

Fair, I haven't read the original thread, sorry for misunderstanding :)

 

[Rebecca69]

This topic was split off from the thread being quoted, and turned into its own thread. That's why the quote goes with a different thread.

Or, the therapist is just active on some social media platforms....You're reading too much into this, IMO.

Well put.

Well thank you. I am concerned about some of the influences in her life and my therapist does NOT Yelp excessively or at all, and I appreciate your feedback. It just seems that some therapists are needier than others, which does not render them ineffective or dangerous, just perhaps not very occupied.

 

[joeylittle]

It just seems that some therapists are needier than others

I just think it's very hard to understand someone's psychology based on common behavior. Lots of people use Yelp, lots of them leave reviews. Unlike a self-based media platform (instagram, say) - yelp is a recommendation resource. If people don't post, Yelp doesn't work. I just don't think her Yelp activity can be extrapolated into any understanding of her psychology or motivation.

I do understand your concern, and desire to participate in your daughter's life. This just doesn't seem like a practical way to do that.

 

[Rebecca69]

You’re cyberstalking your daughter’s T. Stop doing that.

A teenager is likely to find someone posting online reviews pretty accurately pitched for the teenage generation. Online reviews: normal. You tracking that? Not normal.

It’s normal for many women to feel extremely distressed by not having their own children. Distress at never having your own children: normal. Having zero empathy for a person feeling that distress? Not normal.

Advice from me? Back off. This isn’t the way to re-establish a relationship with your daughter. To the contrary, it’s creepy. Stop it.

Not tracking my daughter's reviews. She does not blog. What I noticed was that this therapist is someone who posts A LOT on Yelp. I wonder about the motivation to do so almost compulsively. Some of the other mothers, who are my friends have as well. Some women choose not to have children and do not have distress about it. This person is upset that she did not find someone during her childbearing years and longs for that. I have empathy for her, but such an individual must struggle with what being a parent is really like, the wonderful, the awful, and so on. I have a narcissistic ex, who had nothing to do with this child until she became a teenager, when he stepped in to undermine me, and alienate. He also pays the therapist (he is well known and wealthy) and she was biased by this, as evidenced by allowing him to speak on behalf of our daughter once in a family meeting. My daughter had a different therapist for a year and then went back to this woman after we became estranged.
The influences matter not now because she is 18 and independent, but my instinct says something is off. Thank you for your insight.

 

[Fadeaway]

I think her childfree status and her choice of hobby are Irrelevant to her job as a therapist. You sense something is off, so you are searching and trying to make anything fit, even if it doesn't.

 

[Ronin]

but my instinct says something is off.

So your daughter already struggles badly enough & needs therapy, found herself one that works, even to return to... (Good job, her.)

& You need to be controling even those choices?
I understand why you would care, but honestly trying to control who a kid goes to therapy, no credible reason to suspect therapist abuse given, is quite controling. Of both the kid & the therapist, possibly of the other parent, given he pays for the treatment / seems they have better relation.

 

[Rebecca69]

So your daughter already struggles badly enough & needs therapy, found herself one that works, even to return to... (Good job, her.)

& You need to be controling even those choices?
I understand why you would care, but honestly trying to control who a kid goes to therapy, no credible reason to suspect therapist abuse given, is quite controling. Of both the kid & the therapist, possibly of the other parent, given he pays for the treatment / seems they have better relation.

I see your point. However, what precipitated the return to this therapist was a break-up with a boyfriend, whom subsequently, per my daughter, saw both her and the boyfriend separately, and not for couples therapy. The other parent had nothing to do with the child until she was a teenager and manipulates the scenario. I paid for half of the last therapist, and my daughter left that relationship without ending it properly with the therapist. She was court ordered there after choking me. We have had a tumultuous relationship underscored and undermined by the narcissistic father. Perhaps I am one too, but the father will not ever subject himself to therapy, only as a guest, or a cheerleader for the person in therapy, of which he was a great contributing factor.

 

[Ronin]

She was court ordered there after choking me.

Is quite relevant information.

I'm sorry she hurt you like that.