Disorganized attachment

[ags1]

It seems I have this. Classically my parents were loving but unsafe. I don't think I have felt friendship or love my entire life. I just feel really bleak. I know it will never change.

 

[Freemartin]

Another one here.
But attachment styles can and do change.

 

[gorgonzola]

I daresay you'll find a lot of people with that attachment style here.

I pretty much max out the avoidance scores and lean a bit into the anxious side of the scale, which I guess kinda counts? Somehow I've been married to another avoidant for nearly two decades now - we're cool with giving each other space, though we really don't want to be given it.

But attachment styles can and do change.

Please teach me!

 

[Freemartin]

Please teach me!

My understanding is that therapy and good relationships can kinda teach you more secure attachment. I don’t know if anything else does the trick - may be that a broken attachment system needs a healthier attachment to heal.

 

[Ecdysis]

Theres a great book called Healing your attachment trauma by Diane Poole Heller.

I especially love the audiobook version.

 

[ags1]

I made a meme! Trying to find the funny side in all this...