Relationship Do I Answer....

[sweetgirl]

He asked for space on sunday, so I am giving it to him..but monday night he txts me and says he tierd and night night..I didnt respond. I am not sure if I should txt him today or not??

 

[wife of]

Mirror the txt with something light and general...in case it is not an indication of the end of isolation...

 

[JohnJohn]

I believe we need to offer support when asked, even though it is sometimes a one way street. If we are not consistent then the environment and connection we create is not stable or supportive. We have to decied if we want to support them and forgive them for not being in absolute control over their behavior or do we try to punish them and force them into a direction they are not ready to go through games and manipulation.

This is all in my opinion, but if you love or care for them support them when they reach out. Don't try and fight fire with fire by alienating or avoiding those in distress. You both may loose and the sufferer will definitely have less motivation to better themselves.

 

[sweetgirl]

Thank you...he did just txt me again saying he hopes I am having a better day than he is. I think I should respond!!!

 

[sisu]

Yes! Absolutely respond. He is reaching out to you. Just a simple response is perfect. This is all part of building trust. He is pinging you to see if you are there - yes you are there for him.

It is a tough road if you choose to stick with him and be a supporter, but I have found in my case that it is always worth it. :) Just follow your gut and you will figure out the truth.

 

[JohnJohn]

Just support him and let him know you are out there. Now don't forget to take care of yourself too. It is very hard for us to exist in largely one sided relationships. Know your limits and don't forget your needs too. Be strong and be a becon sufferers can be empowered by. Positive emotions can have tremendous benefits to those in despair.

While they heal take care, be patient and don't forget your needs too. We need to be strong to help others otherwise we can become sufferers too.

 

[sweetgirl]

I responded offering him a hug and an ear to listen since he said he was having a bad day!! He said he wuld vent to me tonight!! I always try to be positive he calls them my butterflies. I am very good to myself!!! I thank you all for the great advice and I hope I can also provide you all with the same!!

 

[ProudWife99]

I think you handled it fine, sweetgirl. It is so hard to know what is best in those situations. Good for you for searching out help and advice.