Do Others Wonder Why We Are Here

[AngelKeeperJ]

On an upbeat note-I know in my heart that nothing is lacking and that I am suppose to learn something from this. I am sure that I am suppose to stand my ground and hold on to my beliefs about how to treat people and hold them more accountable for their actions and not accept bad behavior. I am meant to find some "meaning" in life in the face of all the bad that has happened and still find the good in others. My roots/core is strong and the answers lie within me-just have no idea where-lol

Well said! You put so much in your words, thank you! What you said, helped me focus on what to do when I feel disconnected without goals.
:)

 

[Tinyflame]

I think brat you don't have to 'figure out' what is good about people, just hope there is when sometimes it seems lacking.

But just as important, it's (very) ok to not tolerate what is bad or harmful to you.

Hope you can identify things/ people/ places/ activities/ whatever things you like to do that bring you joy and peace- I remember a funny 'Peanuts/ Snoopy" Christmas card with Snoopy under the mistletoe, said "It's better to give and receive". :)
ie Hope you get blanketed by just kindness/ ~'soft stuff'- nice to not have to always swim against the tide- God-knows you and lots of other people here certainly deserve it.

 

[heidi]

I think maybe it's because you used to frame people and relationships as the things that gave life meaning, only now the way that you feel about people has been impacted, so it's sort of affected your ability to feel good about life.
Maybe it's a matter of finding a new purpose or meaning for yourself.
For example my meaning of life was always just to be able to appreciate life and small moments. Because my ability to do this has been compromised it also makes me feel my life is worthless.
So I guess we are still existing for some reason and maybe we could find out what that is and that's our new meaning.
I guess that's even wrapping things up a little too nicely. It sort of is what it is, but your question really gave me deep insight into the reason I feel so bad.
What I used to value, I'm less able to achieve. My temporary goal is just to get peace and appreciate that.

 

[mamachick]

Junebug-love the snoopy quote. And yes, I keep hoping there is good in people. Actually, I have always found good and think there is more peace when we seek similiarities than differences. Thanks

 

[Christy]

Dear Brat,

You may find reading about existential crisis helpful. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Existential_crisis
The gifted are more prone to experience existential crisis or existential depression. [DLMURL]http://www.sengifted.org/articles_counseling/Webb_ExistentialDepressionInGiftedIndividuals.shtml[/DLMURL]

Best, Chris

 

[mamachick]

Thanks Chris

 

[shell]

Yes at times I feel so insignificant, being depressed tends to make me think too much.

Sometimes I think about all the terrible things that happen in the world, all the people that deliberately harm others and wonder what is the point of it all. I start to think too much about why I do all this each day when I feel so miserable, but then I walk into work and realize that there are good people too. Their positive friendly smiles make realize that not everyone is destructive and life isn't all bad, its just hard to see it when I'm focusing on the negative.

I need to find new meaning in my life, because somewhere along the way I've lost any sense of purpose, structure and direction and without direction it's easy to feel there's no way forward.

Because I've lost trust in people, I've been allowing myself to only see things as all bad, rather than seeing that there are really good people in the world too. Shutting everyone out, closes the door to the good in the world too. I just need to be more selective about who I allow in.

 

[Tinyflame]

I have no proper sense of 'existence' or 'identity' or worth at all.

 

[broken_one]

I guess I am lucky. I am living for my kids. That is all I can focus on at the moment, trying to make things better so they don't end up like me.

Lizio - Having lost 8 babies and now facing life without children, I often question my existence. Why AM I here? I'm in a very dark place right now, and I know it. Maybe that's half the battle, just recognizing it.

 

[Christy]

Hey broken,

I see you on this forum daily. You know you help people here? I appreciate you. Thanks. Best to you. Chris.

 

[Sethe]

I'm here because my parents got drunk and had sex.

At least that's what they told me. Apparently, it was supposed to be funny.

I have no f*cking clue why I'm here.

 

[broken_one]

Hey broken,

I see you on this forum daily. You know you help people here? I appreciate you. Thanks. Best to you. Chris.

Thanks Chris, I was recently diagnosed with PTSD and I'm trying to figure this whole thing out. I have been helping others who suffer from infertility, I don't want my 12-year journey to be a waste, I'm trying to find a purpose to it all. I'm finding many parallels between PTSD and infertility.