Do therapists care less about their clients when they start to heal?

[Snowflake]

Do therapists care less about their clients when they begin to heal?

 

[somerandomguy]

Good ones don't.

 

[Chris-duck]

i don't think it'll be so much that they care less as you begin to heal, more that they just allow you to have less dependence on them and they'd have less immediate concern about you if you're in a safer space.

You feeling like this with your current T?

 

[Angelwings]

It might seem like that because you don't need so much from them anymore, but my guess is that they might even care more, after having been through that huge journey with you.

 

[Snowflake]

i don't think it'll be so much that they care less as you begin to heal, more that they just allow y...

I had a good session today-did a lot of journaling and today I read it. I felt okay for once but then that awful voice said “if you get better, she’ll stop caring.” Now I’m scared it’s true

 

[Nessa7]

I don't think so. I do think that they get to show it in a different way. My therapists have always seemed genuinely happy to celebrate my successes with me.

 

[Friday]

There’s a difference between caring for someone & being concerned/worried about them.

When you genuinely care about someone? You want them to get better.

A nice thing about professionals, is that they know that’s not usually a straight line. Whether you’re talking about physical illness or psych. There are going to be good days and bad days. There are going to be sudden emergencies in the middle of a good run, and a fantastic bit in the middle of a bad run. They’re prepared for those eventualities. They expect them. It’s a process. And the end goal of that process? Is no longer being needed. And that’s okay.

 

[Freida]

“if you get better, she’ll stop caring.” Now I’m scared it’s true

I totally get that. This is the person who knows my deepest darkest most sordid secrets. Shes been holding my hand and trying to guide me through this nightmare for years now. And then the day will come where I will no longer matter to her -- like I didn't matter to people in my past.
And I have to reframe that --- to become she is letting me go because I'm the one who is ready to move on - not her.

Plus I know she will be doing a happy dance when I no longer need her but that happy dance will be for me - not her. And I'm guessing it might be hard for her too.

 

[Snowflake]

I totally get that. This is the person who knows my deepest darkest most sordid secrets. Shes been holdi...

Exactly-

 

[Mach123]

All the implications! I could go on and on. : ) Better not. Therapy today.

 

[Snowflake]

All the implications! I could go on and on. : ) Better not. Therapy today.

Yep

 

[hithere]

I'm commenting mostly because want to follow this thread if anyone else comments. The question is really resonating with me. I'm glad you put it into words, because I do feel this on a some level that I couldn't identify. I wondered if something is wrong with me because I have had several abusers and went back for more and more and more trying to stay connected to them. I'm curious if you have that in your past or not. I'm wondering if that trait I have of desperately trying to keep an abuser in my life is related to these feelings. My counselor told me that as T when patients don't get better it is frustrating, because what makes the T happy is when their plans go well and people move on to a freer, happier life. When there are setbacks, though it should be expected, it is still frustrating because the T's plans aren't working and the person isn't moving along to a healthier life. I read an article by a T that said he could tell when patients were healing because he started to "like" them more or feel more "attracted" to them (in a healthy way-not sexul). Yet, the lower level thoughts I have are so similar, much like a rejection. Like the T has "moved on" to more interesting people now and I am just discarded and forgotten.