Relationship Do You Ever Wonder If You Deserve Better?

[caligirl03]

Ever wish you could just have a "normal" relationship without the constant roller coaster? Do you ever think that someone out there could actually treat you like the queen you are? I know it's awful, and you can't help who you love.

 

[Changing4Best]

I had that man for 23 years, we had a great marriage, but he was a smoker and died too young, so now I am a young widow. I miss him so, but I doubt that I would ever find one half as good, so I stay single.

 

[Sweetpea76]

Probably the closest feeling I get is thinking about the "what ifs."

My vet is pretty awesome to me even with the PTSD, despite the lashing out, isolating, and quirks that go with it. But sometimes I wonder what things would be like if he didn't have PTSD... Or even what it would be like if he wasn't handicapped.

I figure he'd be too f*cking perfect and it would annoy me ;)

 

[Purplemunchkin]

I guess I do wish some of the troughs weren't so bad, but I enjoy the peaks.

As the lyrics to Matt Goss' song Goodbye says: "I understand that there must be pain, it's designed to illuminate the joy".

But I know my hubby adores me, and he does his best to show it.

To me, the rollercoaster is far more preferable to the 'normal' relationship I had before. It may not have had the downs, but the ups couldn't even compare to what I experience now.

 

[catlover26]

Yeah, I guess so and I just posted something on an Alcoholism forum and someone just had to give their opinion that didn't I deserve better. That I was writing all about his issues and what about myself. I don't think they can understand fully with the ptsd in the mix what I am trying to deal with. Yeah, maybe I am settling for less but I really don't see it that way when I take everything into consideration.

I trust him as much as I could trust anyone after being hurt by my ex. That says a lot. This forum has been better when I have needed support. I really don't need someone telling me I sound co-dependent when my situation is too damn hard to explain in a few paragraphs.

Yeah, I think I got off topic but I think ya'll understand what it is like to love someone that has such highs and lows.