Do You Fear Or Obsess Over Intimacy When In A Relationship?

[sigh]

I worked on being drunk for the experience for a while, but that didn't last. I worked on sleeping with as many guys as possible--that didn't last. I have to be with someone. I slept with the bicycle mechanic just cause I needed it. Now with my boyfriend. It's like our relationship is so good, but our physical intimacy is not. Watching porn before sex makes me feel horrible and like barfing. For awhile, it was alright. He changed--he has increased stress in his life and new medication to deal with. Is this unfair? I don't even know if I'm making a big deal out of nothing. He doesn't know anything about PTSD and doesn't want me to show him (he knows what I've been through). I am just off the list of things to do and it makes sex just physically hard.

 

[pandora]

The meds that I take he..even thougtI am a solution..now that I admit..this is becoming aproblem The PAIN KILLERS nd penzos with the onycintim mat be causing this effect too!!!! I AM GOTTING TOR GET OFF OF THESE AND LEAD A HEALTHY LIFE. I KINd OF WANT TO GO..A MINNIE VACATION FROM MY STREEssFUL CIRCUMSTANCES It ewill happen one day for all ofus!!

 

[crimsontears]

I have a similar problem. I have been with the love of my life for almost 5 years, and at the beginning we had a highly charged, passionate sexual relationship. Since then, it has declined. It isnt that I dont want it, because I do, desperately. the problem is when somethign sexual starts. I get tense and scared and dont want to continue. Sometimes, I am able to push past that and hav e wonderful experiences, but other times I can't get there. It is SO frusterating

 

[pandora]

Wow..my last post shows that I need to get off these meds...stress, and no sleep make my post look ridiculous. Sorry!