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It is a good idea. I will think on that.
It's a real problem and challenge.
It's a real problem and challenge.
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I think after I spent a couple hrs making a behavior scale where I could quantify the behaviors, I was better able to gauge where I was with dissociative behavior with a number (you know, like the dr. pain chart of smily faces to a crying face).......and then identify the responses that would help me counteract the dissociation at that severity.It is a good idea. I will think on that.
It's a real problem and challenge.
Yes you can do this! I think sitting down and really picking apart the behavior, and what degrees it can go to, and how I needed to respond - what I needed to do immediately when I realized it was happening, was a real step in living much more in the here and now rather than in my alternate unreality. I also gave my scale to my T who used percent and that didn't connect with me, and told her to use my Likert scale instead........so when it started in therapy, I'd say....it's a 3 to her...then that also helped therapy to stay in the here and now because if I got to 3....she'd stop and do grounding exercises instead...and that was helpful. So, dissociation and getting control over it became the focus in therapy and at home, and in about 6 months....things were much better. Part of my success has been my knowledge base of behavior and my experience working with kids.....another are the two words I say aloud when I accomplish something (rather than sitting around in an alternative realm getting nothing done and just escaping without any positive feedback). These two words are "Good job!" I was comfortable saying good job to my students....and I worked hard to say it to me. No one else was going to do that-I had to tell myself something positive when I did something right.........the positive reinforcement I give myself is also huge.....to keep motivated to remain in the here and now.That's brilliant @TruthSeeker.
I don't know if you have read David Burns' "Feeling Good" or listened to the podcasts on his home page but he does the measurement thing the same lines that you did and for the same reasons that you have done. That's very clever.
I can do this and I can make it work.
Please do write a book like David Burns did!Maybe I ought to write a book like he did!
That's true. I'll ponder on that idea....I write for a living....not self-help books, more on educational materials....hadn't thought of a self-help book. Thanks for the encouragement!Please do write a book like David Burns did!
More of this written by us for us it really useful.
I hope that you do!I'll ponder on that idea....I write for a living....not self-help books, more on educational materials....hadn't thought of a self-help book. Thanks for the encouragement!
If you are anything like I was, when I was with the dysfunctionals, I didn't even know what to notice.....spent way too much time hiding and dissociated.....and finally when I had had enough and left, I had a desire to change the way I lived........Getting away from the dysfunctional family has really brought about awareness, now that I have contact with other more normal people....I have hope that living doesn't have to be so isolating and hard. I, too am noticing a lot more, which is really helpful.I hope that you do!
I haven't gone any further on this except I am noticing more. I am noticing the shut downs and the numbing and the self annihilation.
what is 'maladaptive day dreaming'?Until @chant2012 mentioned it in my diary earlier today I have never heard of "Maladaptive Daydreaming" but I have serious problems with maladapative daydreaming, and whilst writing this post I see someone else has mentioned it before. I also have intrusive thoughts and distorted cognitions as well.
How could I have never heard of it?
Do you have problems with it? What do you do to work to fix yourself?
You are not alone.Interesting and here I thought I was just crazy.