Does Anybody Else Do This?

[Ufe]

More and more lately I catch myself venting in my head. Mostly because I don't feel safe saying it out loud. But when I do, I find myself saying these things to my T. I don't feel comfortable saying these things to him in person because I no longer think he cares about me as much as he used to and have several reasons to justify these thoughts. But I have no one else to talk to, so in my head, when I'm working through these tough thoughts, I picture saying them to him. And it sort of helps, because I feel like I'm venting these powerful and negative emotions and I'm able to do it without having to look him in the eye or feel like I've disappointed him yet again. Does anyone else do that? Picture themselves saying things to people that they really can't say out loud?

 

[Ovedam]

I have done that... yet I don't now. I don't think its unhealthy and no doubt you will develop more effective methods in time if needed. Venting in your head, if it works and lowers your stress, is certainly not harming anyone. If it harms you... and your stress isn't reduced, then it is harming someone... being yourself... thus another method needs development and use.

Me... I tend to just say things now and take a pretty open approach to life.

 

[Makoga]

I can honestly say yes regularly. In fact I discussed it with my therapist couple session ago...certain things I just don't want to talk about with him, so I figured I had to say that to make any progress and figure out if it was doing any harm or whatnot. We did some EFT work on it and it has been part of my focus of EFT work at home, I have had one day of venting since compared to a daily.

 

[Zumazih]

Yes, I do that though I will usually talk out loud. It does help a lot and sometimes I will come up with my own solution to whatever is causing me stress.