Does the sadness ever go away?

[RVA21]

I have been through a lot in my 30 something years alive. Just when i think i've made progress, it hit me again. The stuff from childhood is the worst. It really gets me down and i cry a lot. Will it ever end? :(

 

[somerandomguy]

Yes. Trauma therapy makes it worse for awhile, but then it gets better. Are you in therapy?

 

[Invisible Fire]

I can relate to what you are asking. It gets exhausting and for awhile I thought maybe being well was a trigger for me. I have learned that enjoying the good days and accepting the bad ones is part of my journey. Thankfully I have more good days than bad lately. I also go through times where I cry all the time. I cry for what was stolen and for what my young self survived. You are not alone and although I do not believe that the sadness for what survivors endured ever really goes away, that acceptance brings a sense of calm and peace. Thank you for your question. You are not alone. :)

 

[RVA21]

I'm not in therapy, waiting for some though, the longer I wait, it seems the worse I feel

Yes I'm so exhausted, I still have nightmares too

Thank you both

 

[ChildofGod]

It does go away, with hard work and a new mindset or way of seeing things. It took me decades to realize that the past can't physically hurt me. I am choosing courage over fear, even though I am scared pretty much anytime I'm outside. I am weary physically and emotionally.

You are welcome. Can you ask your doctor to request a faster appointment?

There is the RAINN network that has free help through the phone or online. (Medications and excercise and therapy help me too. Reading a lot of self help books on the subject.)

 

[RVA21]

It does go away, with hard work and a new mindset or way of seeing things. It took me decades to realize that the past can't physically hurt me. I am choosing courage over fear, even though I am scared pretty much anytime I'm outside. I am weary physically and emotionally.

You are welcome. Can you ask your doctor to request a faster appointment?

There is the RAINN network that has free help through the phone or online. (Medications and excercise and therapy help me too. Reading a lot of self help books on the subject.)

Thank you for the advice

I think I will do that, I have been having chest pains and feeling tired all the time too so I should probably see my doctor anyway

I also have bruxism real bad and even wearing a night mouth guard, I still broke my teeth, I am going to need several extracted soon and to get dentures, I am really scared but I have no other option, my broken teeth are un-save-able.

 

[AngelKeeperJ]

@sherylblondie
I have had dentures for about 20 years and they do take some time to get used to. I'm glad I don't have to worry about toothaches ever again. I did keep 3 good teeth on the bottom to "anchor" the lower teeth. The anticipation of the whole process was the worst.

Definitely see a Dr about the chest pain and fatigue?

Welcome to the Forum?

 

[RVA21]

@sherylblondie
I have had dentures for about 20 years and they do take some time to get used to. I'm glad I don't have to worry about toothaches ever again. I did keep 3 good teeth on the bottom to "anchor" the lower teeth. The anticipation of the whole process was the worst.

Definitely see a Dr about the chest pain and fatigue?

Welcome to the Forum?

Thanks Angelkeeper

I've watched some people on youtube saying the same as you, that the anticipation was the worst thing. One woman said her grandmother had full dentures from age 20 til she died age 97 and she was fine, apparently. I worry about not being able to eat and about potential pain from wearing them and just how it's going to feel. Do you manage to eat ok? Do you get pain?

I'm definitely going to go to my Dr about the pains and tiredness.

 

[Mach123]

I'm going to say yes the sadness can go away or at least become much more manageable.

Everything moves up slowly so the highs are higher and the lows not as low.

I have the privilege of having seen an excellent therapist which I almost feel guilty about.

I understand about the dental work and I should have false teeth but I was fortunate there also and...having a mouth full of caps and crowns is not all that great. I had more than one reaction in the dentist chair. Implants would be nice but ...
Maybe I'll have money someday. : )

I hope you feel better.

 

[IAHC]

I have been through a lot in my 30 something years alive. Just when i think i've made progress, it hit me again. The stuff from childhood is the worst. It really gets me down and i cry a lot. Will it ever end? :(

https://twitter.com/x/status/946887540732149760

I was told this analogy at one point by my therapist and I think even though it’s “about” grief it applies to trauma as well. This thread explains it better than I can but I’ll try to summarize it! Essentially there’s a giant ball in a box and a pain button and at first the ball is constantly hitting the pain button. But later it shrinks and it can still hit the button with the same amount of pain but it will be less frequent than originally. I feel like for a while I felt like the pain button would never stop being hit. But later on it did shrink and it became less frequent. I hope this helps somewhat <3

 

[RVA21]

https://twitter.com/x/status/946887540732149760

I was told this analogy at one point by my therapist and I think even though it’s “about” grief it applies to trauma as well. This thread explains it better than I can but I’ll try to summarize it! Essentially there’s a giant ball in a box and a pain button and at first the ball is constantly hitting the pain button. But later it shrinks and it can still hit the button with the same amount of pain but it will be less frequent than originally. I feel like for a while I felt like the pain button would never stop being hit. But later on it did shrink and it became less frequent. I hope this helps somewhat <3

Thank you, I will have read of that.

I got an appointment for counselling, as soon as Monday - but - over the last day or so, I found out something about the counselling place. It's something that makes me uneasy and concerned about the security of my personal info being held there. I'll go but I need to ask questions before I decide if it will feel safe for me to talk there. There's some issues now too which don't just affect myself unfortunately.

I went away a short trip for a few days but my train there was cancelled half way because a person committed suicide on the tracks :( it caused some major disruption for lots of people. I got a bus the rest of the journey and once I was there I had a really nice time. I didn't want to come home, really.

Oh, and I came home to find a leak in my hallway, not a bad one, but enough to cause my floor to swell up and make my front door very stiff to open/close :/