Poll Does Your Family Neglect You Emotionally?

[Changing4Best]

Yes, my niece only teaches up to fifth grade level, if I recall. I think she gets a kick out of controlling the kids too. She's even admitted to me that she is a control freak, her words. I'm certain that it must give her a great sense of power over these kids, that she has total control of that classroom. She told me once that the reason she became a school teacher was that the benefits were much better than in other jobs, even though the pay was not as good. Some reason to teach! Never mind about helping the future generation or something noble like that!

And she still has not called me... I wonder how long it will take, I am waiting to see, just curiously. Somehow I just do NOT want to talk to someone who thinks I should be in a nursing home! The thought turns my stomach in my mind, if you can get that concept.

 

[saffy]

I think the more we come to understand the person in their own right the more we can forgive ourselves for being abused and accept that they are what they are.

Sheila, if she is what she is, why are you so bothered, surprised or disappointed that she does not call? :) Out of interest :)

Saffy :)

 

[Tanishq]

I have a brother that never lets me know when he's in the area.

My mother and her other siblings/relatives know how to do this.

They will make you feel you don't exist there. When I was kid, it used to hurt me a lot. I wouldn't be able to understand what's hurting my heart, but now I know and also learned need not to think about anymore. I need to communicate and live with good people. I belong to good people and their good world.

Recently they are embarrassed with me because I don't give any attention to them. They can't do anything because I don't give them a chance. It has been relieving me because I also gave up thinking about their negative mind.

 

[Changing4Best]

Sheila, if she is what she is, why are you so bothered, surprised or disappointed that she does not call?

It is a matter of curiosity on my part, wanting to know how she's reacting to being told NO! I believe she MAY be giving me the cold shoulder because of this, but since she has such a busy schedule, I can never be sure. She often reserves her calls to me for times when she is on vacation from her teaching job, etc.

In times past it has always been situations between us where she has had the upper hand and I have had no choice in the matter. Things like her being close to where my parents died and her deciding EVERYTHING about the memorial service. Also, she took all the valuables from my parents house before I had a chance to get there and stop her. Until now I have never even had the chance to have the upper hand and say NO! to her.

I have people that are willing to step in as instant guardians to me, should she try some move like that, but I doubt she will. But I do have to stay alert and aware as possible, feeling her out, just in case she should try! I would dread having her as a guardian, but in my favor is that she lives 600 or so miles from me. I doubt she would try, but it is something I need to keep tabs on, just in case.

 

[blackemerald1]

Invisible-guy what you said in your post is exactly the same for me, exactly. My family cannot cope with my emotion, I have to keep the lid on everything because I am so close to a melt down emotionally. I suspect they know this..little things give me away, things I cannot hide. Anyway I just wanted to tell you, well said.

 

[Invisible-Guy]

Cool, Thanks

 

[Invisible-Guy]

When I'm standing in a room full of people, I feel more alone than while I'm by myself. I don't feel that way here. This is such a cool place to talk.

 

[saffy]

Thanks for sharing SHeila. :)

Well I am in hospital on Tuesday for a spinal operation as so far have not heard anything from my children to wish me luck. My daughter was supposed to come here today and I though it would be good to see her and my grandson before I went in. But they have not come.

Last time I went in no one visited, or asked how I was. But I am used to that so It does not surprise me. I do feel a bit disappointed that not one person has called to asked how I am but hey ho, that is life eh :)

Anyway it might mean I cannot be on here for a while so wanted to wish everyone well :)

best wishes
Saffy :)

 

[Invisible-Guy]

Hi Saffy, good luck with the surgery. I hope everything goes well. You will be missed while you're gone.

 

[Changing4Best]

Saffy, Be well, dear, when shall await your healthy return!!

 

[saffy]

Thank Invisible Guy and Sheila for your kind words.

I am pleased that the operation went well in the end and I was let out the next day. I am pottering around the house and watching dvds at the moment and trying not to climb the walls in boredom. I thought I would start writing stories or poems as I have been drawn to that for some reason.

I did have a bad moment in hospital where I felt suddenly really depressed and even contemplated suicide. I even sat and wrote a letter to my kids. I had taken in some of my own medicines without them knowing. Fortunately I was unable to take them because the nurses kept coming in and out doing observations and the ones I did manage to take actually picked me up. I take Tramadol for the pain but this gives me a high too.

I have never really experienced such a quick turn around from up to down to up before, it was a very weird feeling. But I also do not know where it came from suddenly either. It was really weird. I am so glad no one there found out as I then started to feel really upset about if I they had to call my daughter and tell her. I just did not want her to go through that worry or upset. The note read that I was doing it to keep them from the pain but I realised I would cause them much more by doing it.

I am glad I am home now and safe.

best wishes
Saffy :)

 

[Changing4Best]

Saffy, your concern for their feelings is admirable. I commend you!