honeybeeABC
New Here
Hi Everyone ,
Firstly yes , this is another relationship post
( I've been Lurking for almost a month )
Long story short
- Met a beautiful,kind,gentle,humble , loving and caring man a year ago
- we committed to each other , introduced each other to family , kids ect
- I was his first relationship after his Narcissistic ex who is still and always will be around due to kids.
- our relationship was absolutely perfect we had fun , spoke about a future together ect
- he was working alot throughout a period and dealing with alot of harassment and abuse about our relationship and me from his ex.
- I had noticed the stress , the hypervigilance behaviour, however he assured me he loved me and it all had nothing to do with me or our relationship.
- our relationship continued like normal however little things seemed different i truthfully just put it down to stress.
the last time I saw him he kissed me goodbye Like normal
- then he started withdrawing
- he has become completely emotionally detached .
- his communication Is little however very much all over the place , accusations of me sleeping with someone he knows , saying I take things from him his only example my feet ( I hate my feet ) , telling me he doesn't trust me but can't figure our why ? Or what is causing him to feel this way , Asking why I care for him ? Saying ill leave him
( everyone does ) I have continually reassured him , explaining I understand this all feels real to him , however this is indeed all un true and I care very much for him.
He wanted me to give his neighbour some knifes , forks , plates ect he had so many and his neighbour had one fork. When i did this he become very protective over them like i was leaving him with nothing. When it was idea only a month prior.
He has not officially been Diagnosed with Cptsd , however I did see things he owned about it so I could be wrong. When i read up aboit it so many things started making sense.
We are now at the point he has checked out of the relationship, emotionally detached 100% , his up all hours off the night online I'm really not even sure if we are together right now as he is unable to communicate yes or no and when he does give some communication his words and behaviour is erratic.
This is the first time I've come across this and I really do love this man.
He has asked for space and a break a few nights ago however unable to communicate what a break means for him. If he requires space I'm ok with that and truthfully I feel he needs it but I also worry that if I provide this he will feel like I am abandoning him & in his mind use that as confirmation that pushing me away out of fear was the right choice.
I myself suffer from mental health , from Adhd ,Anxietyy, depression , past traum and pmdd. Over many years ive worked on myself not 100% but definitely better and able to support him , Over the last month I've done well keeping my mental health in order and focusing on myself but Lord I miss my person. I'm really not sure what to do right now. I mean truthfully I don't have an option I guess. I don't want to loose this man due to past trauma that wasn't his fault.
Firstly yes , this is another relationship post
( I've been Lurking for almost a month )
Long story short
- Met a beautiful,kind,gentle,humble , loving and caring man a year ago
- we committed to each other , introduced each other to family , kids ect
- I was his first relationship after his Narcissistic ex who is still and always will be around due to kids.
- our relationship was absolutely perfect we had fun , spoke about a future together ect
- he was working alot throughout a period and dealing with alot of harassment and abuse about our relationship and me from his ex.
- I had noticed the stress , the hypervigilance behaviour, however he assured me he loved me and it all had nothing to do with me or our relationship.
- our relationship continued like normal however little things seemed different i truthfully just put it down to stress.
the last time I saw him he kissed me goodbye Like normal
- then he started withdrawing
- he has become completely emotionally detached .
- his communication Is little however very much all over the place , accusations of me sleeping with someone he knows , saying I take things from him his only example my feet ( I hate my feet ) , telling me he doesn't trust me but can't figure our why ? Or what is causing him to feel this way , Asking why I care for him ? Saying ill leave him
( everyone does ) I have continually reassured him , explaining I understand this all feels real to him , however this is indeed all un true and I care very much for him.
He wanted me to give his neighbour some knifes , forks , plates ect he had so many and his neighbour had one fork. When i did this he become very protective over them like i was leaving him with nothing. When it was idea only a month prior.
He has not officially been Diagnosed with Cptsd , however I did see things he owned about it so I could be wrong. When i read up aboit it so many things started making sense.
We are now at the point he has checked out of the relationship, emotionally detached 100% , his up all hours off the night online I'm really not even sure if we are together right now as he is unable to communicate yes or no and when he does give some communication his words and behaviour is erratic.
This is the first time I've come across this and I really do love this man.
He has asked for space and a break a few nights ago however unable to communicate what a break means for him. If he requires space I'm ok with that and truthfully I feel he needs it but I also worry that if I provide this he will feel like I am abandoning him & in his mind use that as confirmation that pushing me away out of fear was the right choice.
I myself suffer from mental health , from Adhd ,Anxietyy, depression , past traum and pmdd. Over many years ive worked on myself not 100% but definitely better and able to support him , Over the last month I've done well keeping my mental health in order and focusing on myself but Lord I miss my person. I'm really not sure what to do right now. I mean truthfully I don't have an option I guess. I don't want to loose this man due to past trauma that wasn't his fault.