MVA Fatal Car Accident...saw Driver Killed...i'm Traumatized

[Cynthia Marie]

I was just involved in a fatal car accident with my boyfriend,my grandma and my boyfriends uncle. We swerved off the road and rolled over 4 times. The drivers part caved in and killed the driver (my boyfriends uncle) immediately. I'm in a lot of shock because I saw his body and saw him dead and bleeding from his head. My boyfriend was luckily okay but suffered a fractured neck and broken toe,and my grandma just whiplash and some bruises. I was completely unbruised and fine from the accident but I am completely traumatized from seeing the drivers body as he was a close friend of mine and the relative of my boyfriend. I'm really in shock right now and don't know what to do.

 

[Kintsugi]

Hi Cynthia. I'm so sorry that happened and you witnessed something so terrible.

Was this quite recent?

I think seeking treatment from a qualified trauma professional would really help you if you aren't already seeing one. :)

Welcome to the forum.

 

[Ed Norton]

I personally would get immediate counseling and short course of anxiety meds, ativan or klonopin. There's some research about PTSD prevention that supports that.

I'm very sorry for the tragedy that you all went through.

 

[Nikie]

Hallo Cynthia how are you doing now ?

 

[Lifalif]

I survived a fatal car accident 31 years ago, I was a passenger in a car along with my teenage boyfriend (driver) and two of his best friends, we were all 17 years old,

The accident was the worst case scenario cause it was in the middle of the night, in the countryside and not a car or a house in sight.

I had to wait until someone drove by us and in the meantime, I was exposed to all the horror around feeling so helpless.

When the car rolled over all of them got thrown out the window, but not me, not one scar on my body.



One was dead for sure because he was half under the car, his upper half was and this was a big car and I knew instantly that he had been crushed to death but I wasn´t sure which one of the boys it was and I thought it was my boyfriend, during this time I was operating in some auto remote , like a robot, no feelings, no fears or panic or anything, I even went under the car to find out who it was but when I was doing that I found glasses that I knew belonged to one of his friends.





I started looking for my boyfriend cause I didn´t see him and in a good distance from the car I walked by a pool of blood and a bit further was my boyfriend all covered in blood and unconscious, I thought he was dead or dying.

I found the other one on the other side of the road also covered in blood and unconscious.

No one knows how long it was until a bus arrived that could call for help,

I instantly broke down when it arrives.



My boyfriend and the other friend had life threatening injuries and both in a coma on a ventilator for some time. As I mentioned then I didn´t even get one scratch and was completely unhurt on my body and back then no one knew about the effects an incident like this can have so now I understand what the police officer meant when he told me that I had scars, invisible once.



I have been dealing with PTSD ever since, also my story has another fatal accident happening at the age of 11 when my father and other five men drowned at sea his body was never found.



I never had a chance I guess.



PS

Excuse my grammar, English is not my native language