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Feeling Alienated

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Jimmy1

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Feeling Alienated

Well, I thought relationships are not only with regards to the opposite sex, so here is how I feel.

Whilst I was serving, in the early days, everything was fine. You had mates at work who you worked with drank with and deployed with. Then marriage happened. You had to settle down a bit and you had to develop a new circle of friends to include your partner.
Because you were posted every few years from state to state, generally your close friends were military orientated unless you were close to your home town.

Then after returning from operations, I found that people looked and treated me differently. I thought it was them until I discovered years later that I had PTSD.

The problem today is that most of my close friends that I had have moved away, or don't want to associate anymore. Its like I have AIDS or something. Finding new friends is even harder. I have trouble associating. I have tried. But most of the people in the civilian sector just want to yap on about trivial crap which I find irritating.
Or they start asking question after question and I start feeling trapped, then they look at you weird.

So anyway, I find my life very, very lonely. The only people I can really associate with have PTSD, and face it, you don't want to talk about being in the service, or operations, too many memories.

Now I understand why a lot of veterans want to move away out in the boonies.

Well, another bit of therapeutic mumbo jumbo for you all to read.

Does anyone else feel the same way, or has anyone else come up with a miraculous way around it.


Jimmy:confused:
 
I know how you feel, I have never felt like I "fit in" around civilians. When I got back this time my ex's family said I was "different" of course they never said anything to me!

My ex tried to help me many times, I was too scared, stubborn.

And ironically I lived out in the boonies as well, before I screwed everything up.
 
Mate, if I can give you any encouraging words it would be 'It's not your fault'. Don't blame yourself.

Jimmy
 
Just found out another friend died (cancer). That makes two in my unit since we got back, both cancer.

The few friends I had are starting to die off.....
 
Thinking more about the whole alienation/isolation thing some more. This weekend is going to be a holiday weekend. I just realized I have no one that I can spend it with. Not a one....

I might as well leave for my PTSD program early. Sorry just feeling sorry for myself.

Jason
 
I get what you're saying mate... I isolate myself from ex-military for the same reasons, yet they are also the only ones I can usually associate with, cause I look at most civilians with zero military experience and can't stand listening to some of the rot that comes out of their mouth... the stupid shit that bothers them. I know it is real to them, I understand it, but it still frustrates me in my head. Its really hard to step backward after a combat zone... I can go out, I can pretend with some people, I get on well with some, I get on best with ex-military. I actually get why vets all go hang out at the RSL you know... because its the one place you will find other vets who you can chat with and stupid civilian shit isn't a bother.
 
We should do this skype shit or something mate... just let the thing run and hang shit on each other when in front of the computer :)
 
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