General Feeling Frustrated

[nursenurse]

Having all those disorders does not give her a back seat in life. Sure you need to compromise and make some allowances, but it sounds like she is trying to revert back into that eggshell with your help. That will build resentment in you and be emotionally draining. I am not sure how you go about insisting on help for her, but I know you can't bend over so far backwards that you end up staring at your navel upside down. There's stresses, and then there are stresses.

My Dude can only take crowds in small doses. We don't avoid them at all costs, but I am mindful of the situations I might expose him to for something I want/need to do. He has a choice of accompanying me or not, and if he does, there is an "escape" plan so to speak. I think that is just common sense and common courtesy. there are no eggshells here, just respect. But if you have to constantly have your inner mute button on so the other person can engage in really what may be unhealthy behaviours, then I think you need to have the talk, and I think she may need to be gently steered into therapy, maybe even couples therapy.

My heart goes out to you, there is a fine line between not being able to help who you are, and making yourself to be what you are, and I think she may be crossing that line, if you can understand that.