Felt good all weekend and don’t want to ruin this feeling by going to therapy.

[Skywatcher]

I had a really nice weekend with family and friends. Felt normal after weeks of trauma anniversary crap. I have therapy tomorrow and don’t want to do emdr on trauma. Don’t want to have conversation because that can be even more triggering. I just want to sit in there with her and be two mentally healthy people. Has anyone ever felt this way?

 

[Kubash16]

Definitely have and I’ve told them that and they let me take the lead. They understand sometimes you just need a break and to just chat about lighter stuff. Just tell her, I bet she will get it. ?

 

[piratelady]

That’s how I’m feeling! I promised I would go, so I’m going to. I agree with kubash, you can say something and take a break. No harm in that

 

[grit]

you should be able to say I had great weekend and loving this feeling and want to keep it for while as long as I can so I can integrate it and own it (so it is not just a fleeting experience) so today I do not want to talk about my past or the future but just chat.
You are paying for this exact thing and should get it.

However, just the nature of therapy, you may fall into reflection or introspection and then what is the therapist to do?
If your expectation is the therapist will talk about her life and her light and her fun over the weekend, that is unrealistic expectation and you cannot force a phase in treatment that you have not reached naturally. and if you push it, you will fall into rupture or worse.

Prepare yourself, set realistic expectation of the therapist not sharing her life and having over the coffee conversations with you and you are fine. Otherwise, you are experiencing flight to health sort of and think you are end of therapy phase where every session may feel over a coffee with a friend - a sign of termination of treatment.

As long as you are aware of the therapist' boundaries and not confusing her as a friend, you are fine.

 

[Muttly]

So many times I have felt like this. And I've let my therapist and we've kept the session light. My therapist saw it as a healthy thing, not an avoidant thing. We talked about the good things that had happened during the week. Every once in a while she will slip some comment in there, like "see, you are comfortable saying know when..." or something.

 

[Skywatcher]

It went okay. I tend to go against all plans I set in my head when I sit down in that room. I just let her take the lead. It went fine and it was mostly kept light until I got triggered by something. So we calmed me down. I did mention my two really good days and she was really happy for me. She always reminds me that we want to string more and more good days together until I no longer need her. :-)

 

[whiteraven]

I feel like this any time I have a "good" week. Not many of those, but many are much better than after therapy. I've taken a break from therapy a number of times; I actually find it very refreshing.