Filing Complaint Against Therapist: Anyone Done It? What To Expect?

[Udug]

I guess anonymity in the complaint is out of the question? I mean the board is going to tell her my name at least? I can't...

this is amog - Im seriously just wanting to use my real name now :rolleyes:

You can opt out of that. You can absolutely request that you not be mentioned by name. But the complaint will reach her in a way that she either recognizes you by the complaint itself, or to protect your anonymity it's be pared down to a generic statement that doesn't have much effect on her with her supervisor.

I think it'd be a good idea to start thinking about your fear of what she might do as a separate entity, and not actually about anything she might do.

You're waiting until you've confirmed that any possible scenario that she might cause you distress, is out of the question before you let yourself feel calm about what you're doing.

Thats being hyper vigilant, not cautious. You've already asked around on what the odds are that she'd risk her career and personal reputation, for revenge on a complaint submission. The truth is most people in that line of work, and any other public servant that deals with human drama and stress get complaints. If she hasnt yet, she probably will eventually. She's seen colleagues get them, maybe her boss. Its part of the job.

You're letting her be huge in your head while you're getting smaller and smaller. You're going to be in these situations at times in your life, for all kinds of reasons. Dont let your fear keep you from doing what you feel is appropriate in a situation. It feeds your own false sense of powerlessness. It'll be okay, really.

 

[Jamal]

maybe your working this too hard, maybe just sending a letter to her telling her how she brought you harm, your confronting her, you never know she might be human and apologize. If she does not move on its better to use those energies getting better, and not letting people who are not good for you making you worse after they are no longer in the picture. I would suggest simply confronting her with a frank letter and let it go.

I did this with a surgeon who I refused to pay the 20% medicare does not pay when they tried to collect from, I confronted him that his aftercare was non-existent and I had to go to ER unable to breath as a result of a infection from intubation his office ignored when I complained until it was an urgent matter. I confronted him that he was maybe a great surgeon but a terrible doctor who one day was going to cause someone to die prematurely due to his lack of aftercare. He removed the negative item from my credit report and never bother me again for that 20%. Sometimes all it takes is just to say what needs to be said, and if that does not work anything else likely won't do nothing but create a defensive response and add to your stress. Its just not worth it because your the only one ending up feeling bad or defeated and angry.

 

[Oraka]

this is amog - Im seriously just wanting to use my real name now :rolleyes:

You can opt out of that. You can absolutely...

I personally would just find another dr.

 

[Olo]

so your talking about a professional taking advantage, that's worse than someone else doing, you should go to a rape center and tell them. Don't worry about being on front page or other leverage he may have, they have a duty to report. And you can ask them to do it anonymously, the authorities will know to watch him, and you won't have to deal with the very thing being used to keep you from doing something about his conduct.

 

[Aja]

hearing this from you makes me very angry, because its like watching a friend getting raped, because if he is taking advantage of you and using his professional position to do it, its no different that rape, your vulnerable and he is using that. No different tha someone drugging some one and taking advantage. I strongly urge you to go to a rape crisis center, just tell them you don't want to give your name but you need to tell them what is going on, and you want to remain anonymous. Just let them report it that way, and the authorities will flag him, he will get caught eventually if they know what to look for. If he is doing this with you its pathological with him. There are others, they may see a pattern they can investigate.

 

[Ufivig]

so your talking about a professional taking advantage, that's worse than someone else doing, you should go to a rape center and tell them. Don't worry about being on front page or other leverage he may have, they have a duty to report.

I strongly urge you to go to a rape crisis center, just tell them you don't want to give your name but you need to tell them what is going on, and you want to remain anonymous.

Olo and Aja, that post came from a spammer, and has been deleted - just wanted to let you know.
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[Sulihef]

I support you lodging a complaint. I wouldn't expect it to get far as it's the type of stuff that is hard to describe in a way that would be respected as being objective. But you will feel more empowered and that you have done all you can. If you are going to do it I would do it for the sake of the doing rather than expecting some action out of it. And it will be logged so if she has a pattern of complaints against her longer term then you will be part of her being dealt with.

Someone will have a conversation with her and maybe that can be enough for you? I also imagine she could write an answer to the complaint that may upset you. Keep that in mind and consider how you would feel about it.

If she made anything private public then she would be severely disciplined. Its never impossible as there are some unstable people out there but its unlikely and she would get herself into big trouble.

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[Odu]

I haven't done it, but props to you for standing up for yourself. I've had some really crappy therapists in the past (including one that wanted me to "prove" my physical virginity!!! :mad::mad::mad:), but I never did much more than posting a bunch of bitchy yelp reviews.

 

[Iri]

"prove" my physical virginity!!!

What? How exactly does one "prove" that to a therapist? Gawd!!

 

[Eni]

What? How exactly does one "prove" that to a therapist? Gawd!!

Yeah ikr. I quit seeing her the second time after that.

 

[Fulevo]

She may well not be certified or have any governing body.

In my state all one had to do was pay a $30 licensing fee wi...

What?? Seriously?? NO WONDER why so many of the counsellors and social workers that I've seen are total shit.

 

[Eti]

:mad::mad::mad:

What?? Seriously?? NO WONDER why so many of the counsellors and social workers that I've seen are total shit.

OMG, I'm still fuming about it daily. Does it EVER go away?