MVA For A Long Time...

[James McGregor]

Hi all

About 20 years ago i was in a terrible car accident, i was run over and could easily have been killed. At first following it i was in an out of hospital while i was healing, things seemed very frantic. As the years passed though, i do think of that night a lot - its strange though, sometimes it seems distressing - other times i feel numb about it, and other times its as if its an almost fond feeling - as if i wish it were that time again. Just wondered if anyone could relate?

Thanks!

 

[littleoc]

A year late, but in case you ever happen to come back...

Yes, others definitely relate.

 

[James McGregor]

A year late, but in case you ever happen to come back...

Yes, others definitely relate.

Many thanks for the reply, no time limits lol even though it's been a year, my issues are still there. Therapy ended a few months ago, they seem to think trauma is the cause of my issues, which makes sense, but no real guidance on what to do about it unfortunately. Got a review appointment in a month, not sure if there's any point to be honest, life remains torturous :-(

 

[littleoc]

I understand that... my dad loved using cars as weapons. I still have such trouble trusting them.

EMDR helped me a lot. Have you tried EMDR yet?

 

[James McGregor]

I understand that... my dad loved using cars as weapons. I still have such trouble trusting them.

EMD...

I tried EMDR a few years ago, to be honest I absolutely hated it, it felt like my brain was being scooped out lol no idea why

 

[littleoc]

I tried EMDR a few years ago, to be honest I absolutely hated it, it felt like my brain was bein...

Hm.... well, fair enough. It's definitely difficult, I can't disagree there. Maybe you could try it again when you're more ready? See if it works then?

In the meantime, what seemed to help me besides finding a way to process it was to challenge my fears about cars. I still have very intrusive thoughts, but I can now remind myself that my dad isn't around. I avoid walking in areas that I could be corned with a car in, though there's only so much that can be done on that front. But I picture scenarios where I avoid cars as if I'm playing dodgeball, sort of how cops will sometimes picture bad scenarios and how they'd react BEFORE they experience it. That way, they'll have a quick reaction in the event of.

I also remind myself that I survived. Sometimes that's enough.