Friend Slammed Me!!

[OKRADLAK]

Freak---that would be nice if people noticed, but honestly most people never know when people like me disappear. In fact, the singer from Alice in Chains, a dear but troubled man, was rotting for about 3 or maybe more months before the discovered his dead body. :( They actually smelled him. That is why they even bothered to look.

Not a friend in the world. :(

I could be dead for YEARS and no one would care or know.....well, a few people.......

But you know, that is the way I want it now. Am I twisted or what? The "ice flow" idea is very very fetching to me now!!!

 

[freakofnurture]

Not a friend in the world.

But then again they care enough to nag and criticise. Suckers. S. U. C. K. E. R. S.

 

[OKRADLAK]

But then again they care enough to nag and criticise. Suckers. S. U. C. K. E. R. S.

Now THAT is the sh*t. True sh*t, too.:poop:

 

[Heather]

Okradlak - with friends like her no wonder YOU like being alone. YIKES! I'm glad you told her to take a hike....hopefully a long one of a cliff. What a biatch!!

People like her give the human race a bad name. That's like my so-called good friend blaming me for my brother-in-law sexually assaulting me. UGH! Some people.:mad:

Hope you remember it has everything to do with her and NOTHING to do with you!! I'm so glad you're getting rid of all the garbage in your life.....that's why there's Hefty bags -- 2 Ply!:D

Hugs. Heather

 

[Nighthawk]

I get pushed to go out the door and speak to people all the time. This is not healthy, you need to go out more often. I often answer I bought a comfortable bed for a reason. I don't really have any friends and the ones I have are on the suface. If I let people in too far I tend to spit them out knowing I am going to get hurt. So alone is a path I choose. I can push for only so long and then I fall back inside with noo want or need for the outside world ... Ok other than food of course.

Good for you standing your ground.

NH

 

[njray]

I am so going to learn how to use the quote thing........someday...Actually it is probably better I do not yet as everyones inbox would be filled in pink......

Freak said "You know what sucks a lot, too, about people 'not getting' us?" seems to be a recurring theme in many posts of this forum.... I think that is because of lack of education and the stigmas associated with mental health... That said Forums like this are awesome I hope those that learn to manage there PTSD from this forum do the right thing and someway offer to others what you may have received here......... I try to direct as many persons I come across that are suffering to join here.....There are many resources that help those in need here whether it be the scientific information afforded by A and the crew or the individual and group hand holding of those that do suffer and "understand" this place is great.......

Anti - Sorry really not in LUV w/you but the pooch has stolen my heart........

OKR - I agree with what Heather said about "taking hike"

 

[OKRADLAK]

njay.......I also think people do not understand because they are terrified that something can so alter a person. People feaer suffering so in their minds,they like to think that there is some way out, something that will make it endurable. But that is not true in many cases.

Think of how you thought pre trauma. I would read stories and know them from history and my heart would ache. But I did not understand that trauma can cause you to lose faith, hate the things you used to love, make you unable to wash or eat right, unable to taste, unable to care for those you love....make a a 100% changed person to where you do not even recognize yourself.

Of course, these things are more pronounced in some, less in others, etc.....

When people say, "If that happened to me, I would..""

I just laugh. It might not even be them anymore!!

 

[Spero3]

Reading these posts brought up feelings around my oldest sister. She was not on the receiving end of my mother's abuse except on rare occasions. In many ways, she was the "golden child." As a result, she lives in a bubble and cannot relate to what my sister and I experienced. She doesn't really want to hear about it. I had a therapist tell me that this is not uncommon in siblings who were "spared the rod." They have guilt around not being abused, and/or they cannot relate because their experiences were so different. I think this pertains to most people. Also, most people don't want to hear about other people's problems, because it stirs up the skeletons in their own closets. Better to push away that person with PTSD than to be sympathetic and listen and risk having to reflect on oneself.

Spero

 

[Spero3]

FreakofNature,

If I had a dollar for every time my father or my sister told me I just needed to get over it, I'd be a few thousand dollars richer. It is so frustrating.

Spero

 

[Spero3]

But you know, that is the way I want it now. Am I twisted or what? The "ice flow" idea is very very fetching to me now!!!

Hugs.

Spero