Have you ever wondered if those who abused you suffered any impact from it in their own lives?

[AnxiousAmber]

In the course of revisiting and working through my childhood trauma which I am still reprocessing as some new stuff has emerged, I was pondering an impossible question:

If the teenagers who abused me in the ways each one did, where I was their partner without reciprocating back, did this in any way quite possibly have any impact on them and their adult life?

It's possible that Karma likely will if that already hasn't taken care of this on some level.

Thoughts are always welcome!

This is an interesting and inevitable question we all possibly encounter from time to time. TBH I don't care if it did or did not have an impact on them, nor do I care to consider the 'why' aspect. This is a simplistic, reductive approach but I don't wish to give any mental energy or time to such thoughts. That said it doesn't stop them floating around my head.... A

 

[The Albatross]

To the original question: Yes. But I found it self destructive or getting in the way of actualizing my own life so I stopped. I just couldn't see the good of it and it got in the way of me living my own life.

 

[Ellabella44]

Yes. Though going over family histories I've found abuse as well as mental health disorders run in both sides of my family. My father (untreated bipolar) beat my mother. My maternal grandmother (strong possibility for bipolar) treated my mother very badly. Who in turn is responsible for most of what happened to me. Having it myself now I understand them better.

It doesn't excuse things, But these people had their own set of consequences for actions done to them before I even came along. I'm just the end point and the one who hasn't treated my children as I was treated.

For my mother, with myself, (since I'm no contact) she has nobody to feed her need to verbally abuse someone. She is now without one of her children. My step father has to live without me as well.

And my father has been without both of his children since I was a young teen. My brother and I decided we had enough of him and we both went on visits with him so the other wouldn't be alone.

Cousins I hope karma kicked them in the a**. But then again family history says that they have already most likely suffered as a parents prey.

So I don't wonder much if they have been hurry for hurting me. I just wonder if they have passed it on to their own children or have decided to be a dead end for generations of abuse like myself

 

[katz]

When ever I look back and this question comes up - I tell myself that it doesn't matter. They may have chose to forget it or it may have bothered them for their whole lives. I tell myself that their day will come - and they will be judged. Then they will have to deal with it - alone. Telling myself this, lets me forget that I don't have to worry about it. I have no control over what they did or what happened to them. Or what's to happen in their future.

 

[Itsnotyouitsme]

Often... although unfortunately I still have access to my abusers lives and I can tell you that they have not been affected not one bit. Nor are they remorseful. It just goes to show there are some really evil people walking our world freely...