Have you ever wondered if those who abused you suffered any impact from it in their own lives?

[SeanCharles]

In the course of revisiting and working through my childhood trauma which I am still reprocessing as some new stuff has emerged, I was pondering an impossible question:

If the teenagers who abused me in the ways each one did, where I was their partner without reciprocating back, did this in any way quite possibly have any impact on them and their adult life?

It's possible that Karma likely will if that already hasn't taken care of this on some level.

Thoughts are always welcome!

 

[somerandomguy]

I think that's a completely normal question. I also think it doesn't really lead anywhere useful.

I don't have any control over what my abuser's life is like now. Hoping that it's shitty is just a negative thought, and negative thoughts lead to more negative thoughts. She's out of my life now, and that's a positive for me. That positive thought is where I try to stop.

 

[SeanCharles]

I think that's a completely normal question. I also think it doesn't really lead anywhere useful.

I agree that this is a normal question, and may not normally lead anywhere useful. I am glad that chapter is closed and that I am able to look back into the past, I started this thread for discussion, not to really explore the question of what happens after the fact. In ways, I have some emotional baggage that I am unpacking, much like peeling away onion layers. So I figured I would toss this out as discussion space.

 

[Friday]

It's possible that Karma likely will if that already hasn't taken care of this on some level.

Or the other way round... they’d already been hurt.

 

[SeanCharles]

@Friday "?"
I know that the male did end up in jail for a drug-related offense, which was no surprise to me since we had a conversation about that once when he was watching me.

I don't know what happened to the female aftwards and I really don't care to know. As far as both of them, I am glad they are gone now. In terms of forgiveness, I am definitely not there yet.

The male too, from 3rd party knowledge, was abused by an older brother which doesn't surprise me. The more I look at Society, we're progressively getting worse now in some ways, than we were when I was a child. Sure, times have changed, have people really changed with the times? <- Rhetorical Question. :)

 

[RVA21]

Some karma did come back on at least one of my abusers. I do think such people eventually end up sad or are already sad underneath it all anyway.

 

[SeanCharles]

Some karma did come back on at least one of my abusers. I do think such people eventually end up sad or are already sad underneath it all anyway.

Yeah, I know these two probably have suffered in different ways, it's possible that they both ended up in jail. I am not dwelling here, In looking at this question for me, this was a rhetorical question and by asking this I am not exactly sure what I was looking for in asking.

 

[RVA21]

There's never an excuse to abuse others and I don't care that they're sad, just that most probably are. Jail's the best place for them.

 

[SeanCharles]

At least for myself, I am not in prison, I am able to be here on this forum and am here to work on healing from the past abuse while working to gain control over my PTSD, so that I don't turn out like they were when they were teenagers. Childhood and teen years do shape you in ways as you develop into becoming an adult.

 

[Gs172003]

Im witnessing one abuser getting his just reward as his whole world falls apart.

My daughter's soon to be ex husband abused her and many women came forward because of her and told her their stories. She outed him. So said man thought it would be a great idea to write a public "manifesto" against her and the women that was absolutely horrific. I will not spill all the details but in it he not only outed my daughter's childhood trauma but he also basically admitted to most of the charges against him and is too sick to even know he did. Backlash ensued. He has now lost his business and many of his friends. My daughter will be suing him for slander. He is one of the few that gets what they have coming to them and it's beautiful.

 

[Mee]

I wish I could say otherwise but yes; frequently

 

[Ronin]

Some I know have. Some I similar level certainty know won't.

Shrug. If I'm not willing to deal with them personally, or they're not someone I would if technically possible, I don't give a f*ck.

Since this rat or that one in jail usually doesn't meet my sense of justice.
And me invested in them - and not there for dear mine - doesn't meet my code of honor, for a change. Just the codes of old.

Old shit coming first drags. I hate drags of anything that ain't smokes and fun.