My boyfriend is a former Marine, he got out of the military 6 years ago. It has been a hard 6 years. He broke his back and lost several brothers while over seas. Though i didnt know him before he was in the military.. i know him (and love him) now, and i realize alot has changed. In the last year things have gotten better.. fewer nightmares, wayyy less drinking and he completely stopped the pain meds. He was doing sooo well. I was very proud, and we were so happy.
We are still happy. but 2 nights ago.. he decided he wanted to go out and get drunk. and the truth is... having sex is painful for him if he is not drunk, so i was totally for going out with him. I decided not to drink and just be his DD. THANK GOD!
well he drank, (he claims he wasnt drunk) but as being the sober one i know he was majorly buzzed if not drunk.
he thought he saw someone with a turbin on their head. ( he said a towel) and completely went "out". in a trace. HE wasnt there anymore. he was shaking his head and wringing his hands when i realized something was wrong. i asked. and he said leave me alone, just leave me alone.
finally after about 15 minutes i knew that things were about to get worse. He started yelling about hadjis (SP?) saying he was going to kill them all, screaming about killing everyone. ( I HAVE TO REMIND YOU HE WAS NOT THERE ANYMORE) nothing he said made since.
we were at a bar where everyone knows him, i finally couldnt "control" him anymore and asked one of the security guys who is our friend to help me get him outside.. and explained that he is "freaking" out. the friend convinced him to calm down and go outside.
once outside he went to the corner of the parking lot and started screaming about killing everyone, and that he was going to wait for the guy in the "towel". I told him that it was going to be okay and i just sat on the curb for about 45 minutes without saying a word and let him do what he was going to do. He stood there the whole time, staring at the door and speaking about hadjis and killing them. Finally i got up and begged him to come home. he told me that he couldnt go home, he didnt want to hurt me. HE HAS NEVER SAID THAT BEFORE.
i took it as a sign that i was NOT helping the situation. I asked what i could do, he said get the hadjis. I went inside and looked EVERYWHERE for a person in a turbin. There was none, i asked around to see if any of the other guys saw somoene.. they all said no. ( NOT to bring the guy outside, but to make sure that he doesnt get seen by my boyfriend)
i told my boyfriend "J" that he was gone. He said he wants to wait and started mumbling stuff. he said he doesnt want to hurt me.
this was about 2 hours into him freaking out, his friend came and said he will wait for him, for me to go home. after about an hour, i agreed. I checked his phone for battery, and his friend took his knife.
about 3 hours after i left. His friend texted me to say they are on their way back that J is coming to.
He came into our apartment and didnt say anything for about 20 minutes. finally he laid next to me and said that he was so sorry, and has no idea what happened. That his friend told him that he freaked out and was yelling at me.
I told him the whole story, he was embarrased and very apologetic.
I love the guy with everything i have, and i will not let this diease come inbetween us NO MATTER what, he has tried to leave me saying that he is better off alone. Im here for life, and i will fight for him.
BUT.. i dont know what to do. He is a marine. He says therapy doesnt help he tried when he got out. I NEED HELP! i need to know what i should do.
**** I DO NOT WANT ANYONE TELLING ME TO LEAVE HIM, or SAYING WHAT IS WRONG... i can see what is wrong, i need help, inspiration, what are you doing? what could he do? is there hope for this to get better? ***
THANK YOU
We are still happy. but 2 nights ago.. he decided he wanted to go out and get drunk. and the truth is... having sex is painful for him if he is not drunk, so i was totally for going out with him. I decided not to drink and just be his DD. THANK GOD!
well he drank, (he claims he wasnt drunk) but as being the sober one i know he was majorly buzzed if not drunk.
he thought he saw someone with a turbin on their head. ( he said a towel) and completely went "out". in a trace. HE wasnt there anymore. he was shaking his head and wringing his hands when i realized something was wrong. i asked. and he said leave me alone, just leave me alone.
finally after about 15 minutes i knew that things were about to get worse. He started yelling about hadjis (SP?) saying he was going to kill them all, screaming about killing everyone. ( I HAVE TO REMIND YOU HE WAS NOT THERE ANYMORE) nothing he said made since.
we were at a bar where everyone knows him, i finally couldnt "control" him anymore and asked one of the security guys who is our friend to help me get him outside.. and explained that he is "freaking" out. the friend convinced him to calm down and go outside.
once outside he went to the corner of the parking lot and started screaming about killing everyone, and that he was going to wait for the guy in the "towel". I told him that it was going to be okay and i just sat on the curb for about 45 minutes without saying a word and let him do what he was going to do. He stood there the whole time, staring at the door and speaking about hadjis and killing them. Finally i got up and begged him to come home. he told me that he couldnt go home, he didnt want to hurt me. HE HAS NEVER SAID THAT BEFORE.
i took it as a sign that i was NOT helping the situation. I asked what i could do, he said get the hadjis. I went inside and looked EVERYWHERE for a person in a turbin. There was none, i asked around to see if any of the other guys saw somoene.. they all said no. ( NOT to bring the guy outside, but to make sure that he doesnt get seen by my boyfriend)
i told my boyfriend "J" that he was gone. He said he wants to wait and started mumbling stuff. he said he doesnt want to hurt me.
this was about 2 hours into him freaking out, his friend came and said he will wait for him, for me to go home. after about an hour, i agreed. I checked his phone for battery, and his friend took his knife.
about 3 hours after i left. His friend texted me to say they are on their way back that J is coming to.
He came into our apartment and didnt say anything for about 20 minutes. finally he laid next to me and said that he was so sorry, and has no idea what happened. That his friend told him that he freaked out and was yelling at me.
I told him the whole story, he was embarrased and very apologetic.
I love the guy with everything i have, and i will not let this diease come inbetween us NO MATTER what, he has tried to leave me saying that he is better off alone. Im here for life, and i will fight for him.
BUT.. i dont know what to do. He is a marine. He says therapy doesnt help he tried when he got out. I NEED HELP! i need to know what i should do.
**** I DO NOT WANT ANYONE TELLING ME TO LEAVE HIM, or SAYING WHAT IS WRONG... i can see what is wrong, i need help, inspiration, what are you doing? what could he do? is there hope for this to get better? ***
THANK YOU
