Relationship He Threw Me Awy

[BewitchedBewildered]

So, some of you may remember me. Was in a 2.5 yr long distance relationship with a sufferer who suddenly just started ignoring my calls and texts. Then a year later started contacting me again as if he missed me, but soon found out he had been with another woman he had "just fallen in-love with." Not the entire time he was away, but it hurt. I cut off contact with him, but I still think about him every day. Miss him. I miss who I thought was my best friend. I hate that. I want to hate him, but I cant. I just wish I knew what to do to get over it. You train yourself to deal with someone with someone with PTSD, dealing with a man without feels uncomfortable. I don't know how to relate to a man now. I dont know why I am here again. Just sad and lonely. Dont know where else to turn. I feel damaged

 

[Changing4Best]

Just remember that it's not your fault. You did not do anything wrong! This is very sad and when someone breaks your trust like that, it is hard to trust anyone again. That is probably what is causing your trouble. Are you in therapy? If you aren't, it might help. A good therapist can help you to put your life back together again. It is worth a try, especially if you have medical insurance.

 

[BewitchedBewildered]

Thank you, I was in therapy and it helped. She was great and had a background in PTSD. Unfortunately, changed jobs and insurance didn't cover her and the thought of starting agaib with someone new was, I don't know, overwhelming I guess. I'd like to go back, but, cost is a factor. And star of new year starts the deductible again. So, can't afford it. I do ha e several other life stressors going on (according to old therapist) as well. Recently Had a hysterectomy and laid off, so life, in general, not great. And realizing I have very few friends. He was my best friend and he is gone.

 

[nursenurse]

So very sorry.... There is so much going on in your life where having a significant other there would make it bearable. Hugs to you.