Healing: Crying Talk-through

[Deleted member 28403]

@Born to Run
I'm glad crying helps you, I sometimes feel like I'm emotionless, and don't cry for a couple months, and sometimes like I'm overemotional, and I cry a whole load... I'm confused.

 

[Deleted member 28740]

@Saelben For me it is like the seasons. The rain comes when it wills. And yes hard when you can not bid it be done with. :hug:

 

[Deleted member 28403]

I cried, thinking of all things I did wrongly, and how much I dissapoint myself and others. Some of the bad things I did, not staying calm in situations, unintentionally scaring those I care about. Man, I need to change. And change the situation around me.

 

[Deleted member 28740]

how much I dissapoint myself and others

This also is for me one of the hardest aspects to bear from PTSD. Compassion for self is hard but necessary. Ms Spock did a 30 day group in PM. Start a conversation with her and she can send you links for the material used for this. Be gentle with yourself. :hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug:

 

[Chava]

I don't cry. I don't remember crying as a kid and I'm sure, if I did, it was not helpful or healthy. After a couple years in therapy I was able to spontaneously cry a tiny bit, silent and motionless but a good stream of tears. So it's something I think we all could do naturally, but I suppose I instinctively had to sense a massive well-tested amount of safety. Now that seems to help me integrate "stuff" at the end of sessions. So I know it can be healing. But I never cry on my own...that would still mean something like total collapse.

 

[Born to Run]

@Saelben & @Changeling I wonder if you have a feeling of relief or healing or not after crying?

 

[Deleted member 28403]

@Born to Run
I'm not sure if I feel better or not, I guess maybe a bit better

 

[Panda Bear]

I do cry....in controlled ways, usually with T now. And when I do, it is healing and does make me feel better.

I just loath it and it's not my go-to feeling.

 

[Changing4Best]

@SheilaKathy
I'm so sorry, hopefully the doctor helps, I'm sorry you've been going th...

I think being over emotional is Okay, as long as you don't hurt others while doing so!

 

[Deleted member 28403]

@SheilaKathy
I am afraid I sometimes hurt people with it, my crying making them feel bad about me

 

[Changing4Best]

I don't think that qualifies as hurting others. I think that is called sympathy and it is OKay in my book.

 

[Deleted member 28403]

I guess I still need to learn a lot of stuff regarding emotional functionality