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I've been dating a veteran of OIF for a touch over six months now. I met him in the middle of his PTSD treatment and he was very upfront about his injury. Well, it has been a challenge -- but I knew it would be and made the choice to stay a long time ago. During our 6mos he's attended weekly group, private therapy, outpatient therapy and prolonged exposure therapy. Its been a trip, but we are in love. (he recently admitted to 'falling for me' lol he was trying to be a tough guy, HA! too bad i'm AWESOME!) That doesn't mean its easy -- it all comes in waves. We've had a four day breakup -- but we've recovered and we have been better since. I know he needs his space, but it's difficult not being able to see the person I love and understanding it's not me (I am a worrier - its awful i know)- he has to have time to re organize his brain and thoughts to stay sane and function in daily life. He's an amazing man and I'm excited to get past our current hurdle and keep making steps toward the future. I'm really looking forward to talking to other significant others of PTSD sufferers and becoming educated on his daily reality.
we've been having problems lately, there was a girl from his past -- they were texting things i (you would agree, it wasn't light flirting) felt to be inappropriate for someone with a girlfriend he loves. It was very light -- but still hurtful. He admitted that he realizes what he did was wrong and has since talked to her personally and they both came to the conclusion that it was inappropriate and terminated their friendship. Most times I don't think he THINKS of things. He said something to her about something from the past -- in his mind it was four years ago and in the PAST. but -- it was hurtful that he was talking to her about it now. I've been a dumb girl lately and emotional -- he always has to be doing TWO things at all times. so when we watch TV he's on the computer -- sometimes i don't think he realizes how long i sit there alone on the couch when all i want to is just be next to him. This week we are working on giving him more space (shitty timing after the other girl situation), we were not communicating well and he wasn't telling me he needed more alone time. He told me it was really taking a toll on him. I'd much rather hear it now, sting for two seconds and move on - then four months down the road he's overwhelmed and it means me losing him.
I'm not really sure if i was supposed to get into all of that in my intro but ---that was super long. sorrrryyyyy.
we've been having problems lately, there was a girl from his past -- they were texting things i (you would agree, it wasn't light flirting) felt to be inappropriate for someone with a girlfriend he loves. It was very light -- but still hurtful. He admitted that he realizes what he did was wrong and has since talked to her personally and they both came to the conclusion that it was inappropriate and terminated their friendship. Most times I don't think he THINKS of things. He said something to her about something from the past -- in his mind it was four years ago and in the PAST. but -- it was hurtful that he was talking to her about it now. I've been a dumb girl lately and emotional -- he always has to be doing TWO things at all times. so when we watch TV he's on the computer -- sometimes i don't think he realizes how long i sit there alone on the couch when all i want to is just be next to him. This week we are working on giving him more space (shitty timing after the other girl situation), we were not communicating well and he wasn't telling me he needed more alone time. He told me it was really taking a toll on him. I'd much rather hear it now, sting for two seconds and move on - then four months down the road he's overwhelmed and it means me losing him.
I'm not really sure if i was supposed to get into all of that in my intro but ---that was super long. sorrrryyyyy.
