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MANY thanks to all of you for the kind and supportive replies. I haven't quite figured out how to use the "quote" button, otherwise I would have replied to you all more directly.
Yes, what I worry about the most is if and when he will seek real help. He is not yet diagnosed and is very adverse to seeing someone and talking about it. He doesn't want to tell his family and he is still on his moms insurance plan. My biggest worry is how long do I wait? How long can I hold out hope? Right now he doesn't even want to talk to me or see me. Right now he is refusing to get help from a professional. And I am so deeply saddened that he is overwhelmed and confused (and that I can't help him or even comfort him). I'm guessing that I may know more about PTSD now than he does, and I wish I could just tell him that his isolation is normal, and ok... He doesn't have to feel guilty for pushing me away. But it seems like he can't differentiate one feeling from the next, that's why I keep using the term "overwhelmed" for everything...
I remember what our relationship was like before... and it was amazing... and I know things could be that way again. But how long is too long? I have no idea when he might come around.
JohnP you must be a saint for holding out for so long... I'm sure your wife knows how much you care, maybe she just can't communicate her appreciation but we can - amazing job!! You are one special guy. :)
Yes, what I worry about the most is if and when he will seek real help. He is not yet diagnosed and is very adverse to seeing someone and talking about it. He doesn't want to tell his family and he is still on his moms insurance plan. My biggest worry is how long do I wait? How long can I hold out hope? Right now he doesn't even want to talk to me or see me. Right now he is refusing to get help from a professional. And I am so deeply saddened that he is overwhelmed and confused (and that I can't help him or even comfort him). I'm guessing that I may know more about PTSD now than he does, and I wish I could just tell him that his isolation is normal, and ok... He doesn't have to feel guilty for pushing me away. But it seems like he can't differentiate one feeling from the next, that's why I keep using the term "overwhelmed" for everything...
I remember what our relationship was like before... and it was amazing... and I know things could be that way again. But how long is too long? I have no idea when he might come around.
JohnP you must be a saint for holding out for so long... I'm sure your wife knows how much you care, maybe she just can't communicate her appreciation but we can - amazing job!! You are one special guy. :)
