Help Please :(

[watchdog]

Hello,

I have severe PTSD, it has destroyed a 13 year relationship, however, my ex and I are now very good friends and have an amazing relationship.

After many months of sleeping around (after the seperation of course) I have met someone, I have fallen in love, wich is only the seccond time in my life, everything has been good, but now after 4 months my PTSD seems to be very aggravated again, I no longer trust her (even though no reason has been given) I find myself getting jelous and angry of her past sex life etc.... She now knows I have PTSD and has stated she wants to build a relationship with me and offered to meet my mental support team, I think its quite clear she loves me.... what is wrong with me, why do I contiunally think of her past life, why do I feel the urge to spy etc... Im driving myself crazy, I do not want to ruin this, but I can not seem to shake the feeling........I have exploded at her twice in the last week calling her names and threating to end it, but what for??????????? am I falling into relapse???? help please!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[Jimmy1]

Hey Watchdog, we can help you mate. Can you first go to introductions, give us a bit of info of where you are, etc and we can give you some useful info.
I will tell you this much, its actually natural what your feeling. When the rollercoaster ride of PTSD strikes, you only trust yourself, and maybe your psych. But it does get better.
How long have you been diagnosed for? Have you completed any PTSD course? How long did you serve? Where did you serve? I am not giving you the third degree mate, it just helps all the guys here to understand you a bit.

 

[Jimmy1]

Another bit of help mate for your partner is for her to read this document. Link Removed

 

[watchdog]

Hey Watchdog, we can help you mate. Can you first go to introductions, give us a bit of info of where you are, etc and we can give you some useful info.
I will tell you this much, its actually natural what your feeling. When the rollercoaster ride of PTSD strikes, you only trust yourself, and maybe your psych. But it does get better.
How long have you been diagnosed for? Have you completed any PTSD course? How long did you serve? Where did you serve? I am not giving you the third degree mate, it just helps all the guys here to understand you a bit.

thanks, sorry, I have updated the introduction thread.
Cheers

 

[wife of]

Help her to help you and your relationship by getting as clued up as possible,if she the right one for you then she will understand and join the ride....Sue.

 

[abnvet]

Watchdog,

Talk with her...the sooner the better. Be honest to the point that sometimes you have little control but are willing to work on it with her. Ask for patience but truly work on the communication. I've been working on communication with my current wife since 1997 and as tough as it is, its worth it - a work in progress bro!

 

[Brian Jones]

If you are in some group therapies invite her to go with you. Let her in, that was the hardest thing for me to do with my wife. Most of us have a wall up that we keep everyone at bay with, we dont want them to hurt us. The first time I decided that I wanted to get serious with my now wife we had a long chat about what she was in for if she wanted to take the relationship to the next level.

It has taken years but she knows when my stress level spikes and does what she needs to do to make sure I am OK. The 3 hardest jobs in the world are the wife of a soldier, the wife of a cop, and the wife of a Vet!

 

[Redheaded Stranger]

I think this is the ride. We sign up for this when we knowingly fall in love with a combat-PTSD sufferer. We may not know it but the more education she gets, the better she'll be able to stand by you.

I think the fact that you recognize what you are doing is a good thing and maybe you have some control over it. With my Veteran, I think he is worse when he cannot see what he is doing at the time. So kudos to you for understanding that this is the PTSD and not her or your true self. It is a symptom of PTSD.

Good luck!

Red