I was nasty today and I need help

[KA60]

We all have a lot to be angry about. Anger is a healthy emotion. It's what we do with that anger and how we act on it that is the issue. Or if we get stuck in it.

It is anger making having others harm you.
It is anger making to have others deny the harm that you experienced.

It's working through that anger to get to a place of acceptance.
Some people move to forgiveness (I'm not one of those people).


But distraction is good.
Awareness that you are getting angry.
And then deciding to do something different.
Maybe CBT will help?
Or maybe deeper therapy to really process that anger and deal with the roote cause of it?

It takes practice to change behaviours. But it is doable.

Like your comment about forgiveness. I got to that point with my first deceased husband. Am close with my father. He is 89. His life is closing. Not there with my mom. She died in November 2021. Myself? Continual work in progress

 

[FMCA]

I’m glad it’s doable. I think part of the fact I’m angry is at myself and I got angry at her because she didn’t accept my apology. I didn’t even understand that til I rang the crisis line last week.

Today I feel like I’m ready to get up and get going again. Apartment has been a bloody tip. I know I’m feeling better because I’m looking round me thinking what the hell.
I need to get some self respect back.
Hard getting better in isolation