Helping Beyond The 30 Day Challenge

[illusionist]

I just wanted to post a thread for those of us who cannot contribute towards the site at this very moment. I myself have been cutting myself up that I can't do it just now....felt so bad that I considered leaving and not coming back. Then I thought......ok, I don't have the money right now, but the site needs to survive longer than a year...I will pay, want to pay , when I can. I personally cannot think of any charity where I can contribute monthly and actually physically see the good that a few pounds will do to help so many people. It is helping me a great deal, and I have long since left the start of my journey. I just wish this site was around back then, but I am determined that I will help to keep this place going for anyone who needs the support. So if you are out there, feeling bad....make yourself a little promise...

 

[The Albatross]

Sometimes @richter scale it is a good exercise to accept kindness and graciousness when it is offered. I have been in the boat where I did need to rely on the generosity of other people for a time or two and have paid it back or forward when my circumstances changed? Just a thought, a quote from Digger:

"I also know that there are some members who would genuinely find it difficult to donate even a dollar, either for technical reasons or financial ones - I've been there. I get it. Living hand to mouth, or already overdrawn on your overdraft and 20p in your purse till next Tuesday, selling possessions to put food on the table and pay the bills - been there, done that, and would have the t-shirt if it wasn't so bloody expensive! If anyone is genuinely in that position and would like me to sponsor their dollar for them, I'd be happy to do so, just let me know. (PC me if you want to keep it private)"

and da link: https://www.myptsd.com/threads/why-donate-a-dollar-what-do-you-get-from-this-forum.51363/

 

[The Albatross]

Please though, don't feel bad. Unnecessary and hard enough as it is?

 

[illusionist]

I have looked at that thread but filled me with even more negativity ( I know that's my thinking) that someone else is paying for me. It is a lovely gesture. This is why I posted this thread...maybe more people are feeling the same way as I am....but know that they can do something, when they can.

To be honest, I personally hope I do remain feeling bad, as it won't let me forget my promise to myself.

 

[Nam]

@richter scale , Wouldn't it be nice if life's moments were neater? When someone you love needs money, that you have it? Or in times that you need a hug, the perfect person is right there to give it to you? I can only think of a few times in my l life where that has happened. It can fill me with this feeling of giving up. Why try...you know?

But here's the thing. We are all in different moments and journeys. Just a few years ago, when this forum was new, I was struggling with money and finances. I had quit my job because of this blasted PTSD and then stress was high when the money got tight again. I posted here about the struggles of finding a new job and whether I was ready.

It has helped me in so many ways..the support I got here.

And now I can pay it forward. And I'm happy to.

You will get a chance like that. It might not be here. It could be someone you meet. It could be anything, another charity, a school, etc. Where ever your passion leads you. Maybe you'll meet someone that has PTSD that is in the early stages and you make it easier for them. Really, it can be anything.

Just tell yourself that when you are able (which you will be!) you will be able to help in the only way richter scale can. You'll know when that moment comes. ((HUGS))

 

[Deleted member 28740]

@richter scale and @albatross

This site gives me hope. Most here are givers. I can't do the do re mi right now. Was ashamed for that. Thanks for reminding me that I always give when I can, often above and beyond, and will do so when I can. For now it taking care of sick dogs. Unpaid but makes me connected to a life force I can trust.

 

[Deleted member 28740]

@Nam I get lost in here sometimes. Need help on the job issues, pointers to threads etc. that helped you. I have less than zero confidence. PTSD and Major Depression have me crawling most of the time.

 

[Nam]

@Changeling It was looong ago. 2006. I'm sure that's in the archives somewhere. I'll see what I can do.

Found it: https://www.myptsd.com/threads/ptsd-and-the-job-search.778/

 

[Deleted member 1860]

Please try not to feel bad! I know what its like though.....most of the time I've been broke as a joke as I'm on disability. I have extra paypal funds so I was able to make a donation for this drive. I've been here for awhile and I did feel bad for not donating for so long. But, I think its good to do what you can when you can, and if you can't right now, then that's ok, too. The site will need money in the future, beyond this drive, and when you are able to, you can donate at that time.

 

[scout86]

When I was in college, a couple of friends & I used to like to go out for lunch. At any given time, at least one of us was broke. With any luck, at least one of us had money. We enjoyed each other's company and even the broke one needed at least 1 meal a day. So the rule was, "who ever has money buys lunch". As simple as that. No one kept score. We just ate and enjoyed the meal and the company. It worked out pretty even, over time. I think of this as the same way. I happen to have enough money that I could donate more than a dollar, so I did. Another day, I won't and someone who doesn't have money today probably will. Then I'M not going to feel bad, just like I don't want anyone feeling bad now.

 

[Sammyiam]

I think everyone has turns on this site, some can pay now some can pay later. Some pay with money, some pay with support.

We are alll one.
We all have one thing in common
We all have PTSD or support someone who has
We all have Mental Health problems
We have all had shit times
We have had lonely times
We have had happy and sad times
We have had friends come and friends go
We all belong to this wonderful site
We have all been to the point when you think, can I walk another step, can I take one more breath
We have all been sitting in the dark at 1am in the morning wishing for morning to come and maybe it will be better
And since I have belonged to this site I have always found some one, from somewhere in the world sitting in chat ready to be there for me, ready to talk me through the long dark hours where I thought I was so alone, so scared to take that breath and take that step, that they have been there for me, and at that moment in time, that and that alone means more than anything in the world.
We can help each other in many ways, just because that dollar isn't given now or next week or next month, it will be given by someone on here, someone that has that spare dollar, and everyone has a spare dollar at different times, if we all work together we can all give that dollar at different times. But when you haven't that dollar, just being there for that one person in their time of need in the dark small hours when you sit and think no one in the world cares if you take that next breath, that's when you can help just being there for someone is what really counts. You can give in many ways, and your dollar will be there at some stage.