Supporter Here For My Wife

[GregHuffman]

My lady suffers from PTSD and her account name on here is JulesHuffman. I, myself, suffer from OCD and Social Anxiety Disorder, and also schizotypal. I am here to support her on her journey. About her:

-As soon as I pick her up from work she is always in a bad mood from thinking too much all day, despite being happy earlier

-We will be getting along before I head off to work and then she will text me paranoid messages accusing me of things

-In the morning, she yells at me until I leave the room, because she doesn't like it when people are around her when she is getting dressed, and especially putting on here make-up

-She will start crying randomly because of things she is thinking about, such as her past etc.

-Sometimes I have to restrain her, because she starts trying to attack me and throws stuff.

I love her though and I am here to make sure she gets the help she needs.

 

[dms]

Wow Welcome!

 

[KP the nut]

Hi and welcome to the forum.

 

[intothelight]

Hi Greg,

Welcome to the PTSD Forum! :)

There is an entire section here for Supporters. This site is full of information and you will also find support for yourself as you work on improving your relationship.

Take care.

Debbie

 

[ISupportHer]

Must be especially hard when you have some issues too. I hope you find the answers here that you are looking for.

I am sure that you are aware that you may have a unique situation if your wife is a member also. I hope things don't get misinterpreted. My wife had a user name here for a very short time and decided she could not participate fully if I could read her posts. I showed her another forum and we had agreed to give each other privacy but she never really did find the forums to be a help.

I have found them to be a great help. I hope you do too.

ISH

 

[shoulderblades]

Hello, welcome to the forum. I have C-PTSD (complex PTSD) and I understand all the things your wife is experiencing - been there, done that, bought many t-shirts. You're a very caring and supportive partner to join this site and seek support. It's so important to have a support network; you can't carry all of this on your own, and you need your own space to be able to cope and to not cope.

When you have a high maintenance partner (PTSD and C-PTSD is very high maintenance), it's so easy to be focused entirely on trying to help your partner cope that you forget about yourself and forget that you need space to be angry and frustrated and hurt and upset without worrying about impacting your partner.

It's important to remember that you are allowed to feel whatever feelings you have, no matter how negative they may be. It's very normal to be bitter, angry, resentful, frustrated, angry, exasperated, like you're not appreciated. You're not a bad person or a bad partner for having any negative feelings. How you deal with those emotions is what matters.

I hope you find support and answers and tips and a space to voice all the things you think and feel here. This is a very supportive and nurturing place. Use it to your advantage! :-)

 

[Lady of Longbourn]

Welcome. :)

 

[Whitneys story]

Hi and Welcome to the Forum. For your combined interest please take some time to review the new member information.

She is fortunate to have you as a supporter. There is a lot of valuable information which will benefit your relationship.

I wish you success on your journey. Whitney