Hey... Thought I'd Introduce Myself

[ISupportHer]

Hi Don't!

It does take a little getting used to the way things are run here. What I mean is that I have participated in some forums where anything goes, including personal attacks and profane language. Not good in this setting.

I think this forum is a great place for support and information about PTSD, both from the sufferer's as well as the Carer's perspective. I sincerely welcome you and offer any personal assistance I may be able to give. Not a lot of male Carers posting here. Hope to see you around the forum!

ISH

 

[Nicolette]

I don't think I have Ptsd but a friend of mine referred me to this board and told me it was very useful considering the things I've been through.

Welcome to the forum dontpissmeoff. I must say your chosen name sends of an interesting impression.

While I am sorry you and your wife are having a difficult time I feel compelled to remind you this forum is for people who sufferer from PTSD and their Carers. If you don't think you have PTSD I question why you are here instead of a board who offers support with anger & trauma for yourself and a board dealing with bipolar and schizophrenia for your wife. I am not sure by what you have disclosed that this is the right place for you - I hope it is. We welcome everyone but I don't think, from what you are describing, this forum offers the support you are looking for if you don't have PTSD.

Also, no one forces you to air anything here, you are in control of that, so I suggest your thinking about having your privacy intruded is something you own as you also control what you post.

I hope we can help you here but my advice would firstly to go and seek help to get a diagnosis to see if you have PTSD.

Good luck to you and your wife.

 

[TheMonk]

Old Chinese Proverb, "If you get knocked down 7 times, make sure you get up 8 times." They really stole it from the Irish.

 

[anthony]

Welcome DPO. Sure you don't have PTSD considering what your initial post outlined? Have you been for an official diagnosis? If not, maybe you should... because it doesn't matter how big and tough we men think we are, something like PTSD, depression, anxiety, etc... will knock the shit out of us and win, every single time. Took me a while to work that out myself, being a veteran and all... it was a knock to my own pride having to step back and admit that trauma could, did and has affected me to the point I had to cut the bullshit with myself, the denial I lived that everything was always "fine" and actually get real with myself in order to get some semblance of control over my brain, body, reactions to life, interactivity of life itself, etc. Moral to the story... our pride often must step back when dealing with something like PTSD. You're here, so that's a start I guess.

 

[Nicolette]

Actually, on thinking about what Anthony said and re-reading your introduction this could be the very place for you. Please see if you can get yourself a diagnosis.

 

[dontpissmeoff]

Sorry I guess I'm not used to people actually caring and wanting to help me. Made my way through life on my own (despite being married) so you know how it is? Dog eat dog world right?

 

[Deleted member 541]

Funny thing about the forum...People really do care. We build friendships with people on here, we connect, more than just with the words on a screen.... As far as making it through life on your own......There are a lot of people here that feel the same way, myself included....

 

[Grainne]

Hi Don't - welcome from me too. You did a good job of taking the time to stop and listen to what people were saying. You stepped out of a 'reaction' mode and into a listening mode...very well done, especially with all that pent up anger you must have inside.

I hope you find what you need here. :)
Grainne

 

[tryintobreathe]

Welcome to the forum DPMO. Lots of great people and information here.

Jen

 

[anthony]

Mate, we all have the same issue and whether a carer or sufferer, we know PTSD. This is one place you will find others who understand and give a shit. We are here to help people who want to help themselves. You cannot unfortunately help someone with PTSD if they aren't willing to listen or help themselves. Often we must hit bottom before we do.

 

[anni]

Hi Dont,

I'd like to pretty much echo what Grainne wrote to you. It's always a good idea for everyone to step back and try to post from a non-reactive place. People with PTSD tend to be reactive from several areas of the emotional spectrum. Anger is one. Some of us get our feelings hurt and generally feel crappy about ourselves when encountering anger. It's a mixed lot here.

I also think you did a nice job coming back. Keep doing it if you can, because it really is a very helpful place to be as one processes this whole PTSD journey.

Take care, and hope to see you soon!

Anni

 

[TLight]

First of all, Welcome.

To me, it sounds like you've had traumatic experiences and are possibly having them now also, with the condition of your wife and all.

It would probably be very helpful for both of you to receive counseling with the challenges you face. Whether or not you have PTSD, well, that is up to a trained professional to evaluate, but it sure does sound like you at least have unresolved 'issues' from the past.

It would be very helpful for you both to have a professional in your life for support through the rough times, which it sounds like you've had a few recently. A diagnosis you may receive may help you on your way to resolving some of the anger.

As far as the 'sweetie' thing.....well, I for one waittressed for many years and was sexually harassed at every job I ever had. I CANNOT stand it when someone addresses me that way without even knowing anything about me. Even 'honey' gets to me. EVEN from a woman! So just be careful with the nicknames.........

Welcome again and please keep us posted of your progress.