Sufferer Hi Everyone, Veteran Us Navy And Tbi From Auto Accident 3 Yrs Ago

[BaRtMaN]

Thank you for the kind words and welcome Whitney :)

 

[anthony]

Welcome to the forum.

 

[BaRtMaN]

Thank you Anthony for the warm welcome. I can see further on down the road that you and I will have more conversations. I come from a fairly long line of medical back ground and do understand a lot of this, but to ever believe that a head injury was really like this, I would have called you a liar.....strange how much you think you understand as a professional and really don't :)

 

[anthony]

Yer, TBI can be a real problem child, that is for sure. Especially if ascertained that PTSD exists outside of the TBI, which mimics some of the same symptoms. You're literally fighting twice as hard to fix trauma, change PTSD symptoms via behavioural modification, then you still endup with a double whammy, being PTSD + TBI being present, both of which can kick your arse at any given moment just for the sake of it. Certainly a very tough struggle for anyone to deal with.

 

[BaRtMaN]

It has been nearly 3 years and I have gotten worse, not better. My family especially my brother has PTSD and I tried to use him for support and he told me to divorce my wife and go see a better Psych. etc. I told him I just needed someone to talk to not someone to lecture me and if he was going to continue that I was done talking to him. He continued and I bid him farewell. My Dad doesn't want to hear it, my wife thinks that I want a response and that she needs to come up with an answer to fix it. I told her she just needs to listen so I can get it off my chest some times. My mom will listen to me, but I don't feel like dumping on her all the time as she has her own problems too.

I have tried to explain to my wife that I don't need her to change, I need her to at least have enough respect to do some research about my condition, I know if I had cancer she would be on the net studying like crazy.

I know that if I had another head injury right now that I could be in real trouble. I fell and hit my head after a change in meds and got worse than I was in the beginning. It is a double whammy for sure having both PTSD and the TBI, but my auto insurance and SSD says there is nothing wrong with me. I am working on SSD still, but will be going to a trial for both issues and have a good atty, but it is still heavy to say the least.

 

[Wanda]

BaRtMaN,

Keep fighting the battle. My husband is very supportive, but since being let go from his job in May I see the hurt that he wishes I were better. He is getting ready to take an over the road truck driving job, my Psychiatrist and I discussed my plan to survive. I am agoraphobic, but luckily his son and family live across the street from us and they are my back up plan. I have started a journal in which my counselor suggested I do, now its turning into a book.

You are right you don't need your wife to change, but she needs to be supportive. I have asked my husband to sit in on 1 counseling session with my counselor and 1 session with my Psychiatrist. He did, I told him I only wanted him to listen and that is what he did. He asks me how my session went and he knows when I am ready I will share. He is proofing my journal for me when I feel I am ready to share with him the traumas in my life.

He never criticizes me, but some days he is overwhelmed with what I have dealt with in life. He was in the Navy and he admitted he couldn't imagine have to live with the flashbacks that I do. He is there to wake me up when I am screaming in my sleep, but he knows I may not discuss it until he reads my journal.

I too have an attorney that is working on my SSD I did get my Long Term Disability from my company after much battling.

Hang in there!

Wanda