Hi and welcome. You treat symptoms by treating the cause. The cause is trauma. Work through the trauma to resolve it. When you have done that, you no longer feel guilty or shameful about things that are not warranted. Guilt and shame have a right and wrong place. It is a decision whether you own them or not. Work through the trauma and it removes the anger, sleep issues, so forth. Startle is usually a bit more exposure focused, by doing. Placing yourself out there. Some things are meant to startle you... normal. Others should not, if happening. They are what you change.
