My local police dept are suppose to be implementing a training program for those with mental health problems, finally realizig that someone such as a person with autism may not respond to their request and dont need to be stunned with a stun gun. We can have mental health issues and still be abused, still be conned and deceived. It may be harder for us to cope with the consequences if we have anxiety, depression, ptsd, etc., but it does not negate when we are victims to something.
A couple of months ago I broke up with a man that I only dated 3 months. By this time, he had done many horrible things, the worst for me was not the destruction of property or entering without breaking or other things, but the threatening that he had infected me with a disease. This sent me into panic, which eventually sent me to the ER for testing, but they said I needed retested in 6 months. He then half retracted his statement, not denying, just leaving doubt. The ER suggested he be tested. He agreed, but strung me along for 3 weeks. Finally, I booted him because of his verbal abuse. I dont know if it "normal" or only a mentally ill person would continue to be haunted by being told this, even if he half retracted his statement. Because of this, I sent him messages after I booted him about repairing the damages of property, about being tested, and admittedly was a bitch in some texts. He has had people repeatedly call me, sent a friend to the lounge I go to w friends and tell me stuff about him to cause further anxiety. He has sent me vulgar messages about a male friend that I have and made threats. Then he went to the police and filed charges against me. I admit that I have reacted to his behavior, and I even believe that having severe anxiety problems, depression, ptsd, and a traumatic brain injury plays a large role in my reaction. During our entire relationship and after, my insurance withheld the only anti depressant that works for me, and withheld counseling. I appealled but had to wait from Sept to this April to get meds and counseling. Only after the panic attack and ER visit did I get meds back which take 4 weeks to work. I feel so much better with my anti depressant that is for anxiety too. Counseling was finally approved. I have read the texts I sent him and would not do so today.
We are all responsible for our own behavior. There is no doubt in my mind that if I had my medication during this period, I would have been calmer and not reacted to his words or behavior in the same way. Even so, I never went near his home, avoided places that he goes, I have not seen him at all, I never made a threat of any sort. I did say that I wanted him to be tested. I did say that if I have to wait 6 months and am positive-I will pursue it legally. He made many threats, called me c*nt, skank, etc, made fun of my grandaughter who is mentally retarded. In our state, there is no harrassment, it falls under Stalking now, so he charged me with stalking.
If I am in the grocery store with a cart full of food and he comes in-I am to leave or can be arrested. He drives down my street. Somebody threw a metal beer bottle at my house, overturned my garbage can, and I continue to get blocked phone calls. My friends say I need to file charges as I did make a report about property damage long ago in case I had to do an insurance claim. The police asked me then if I wanted to press charges and I told them that he said he would fix the items and I did not want to jump the gun, I wanted to give him a chance to make it right first. Boy, I can see how he set me up. Very calculated and clever.
So this thread really hits a nerve with me at the moment. However, (I think because I am on the right medication now) I am not blowing this out of proportion. I have trouble focusing, but am trying to just collect the documentation to defend myself and place charges on him as well. Of course I am upset about this, yet I am able to find humor at the moment, or at least this far. I am the furthest thing from a stalker but I did open my big mouth and text him things that I thought. It may become very hard to continue to find humor, but right now, (even though I do not take this lightly), I am too serious of a person usually and am finding humor that this idiot is able to tie up the court system with such nonsense. However, I also worked with domestic violence for almost 10 years until 2008. The laws have not been changed to help the victims, the laws have been changed to create jobs for prosecutors, magistrates, increase police force, grant money for jobs related. At the end of the day, we were better off in 1980, when the husband drug you down the hall by your pony tail, you could grab your skillet and wack him over the head. Nobody cared about victims then, there was no protective orders, and now, if you self defend and he has a scratch-you will be the one in jail. Its all about money to feed into the system and our tax dollars are paying for it. I will write a book before the end of my life. I have started it but there is just so much to say.
I apologize for the length and did not mean to get so carried away with how the bad people get away with such things, but I have a problem explaining without being or showing some specifics at times. I dont know if others can related to this-I hope so, and that I have not offended anyone.
A couple of months ago I broke up with a man that I only dated 3 months. By this time, he had done many horrible things, the worst for me was not the destruction of property or entering without breaking or other things, but the threatening that he had infected me with a disease. This sent me into panic, which eventually sent me to the ER for testing, but they said I needed retested in 6 months. He then half retracted his statement, not denying, just leaving doubt. The ER suggested he be tested. He agreed, but strung me along for 3 weeks. Finally, I booted him because of his verbal abuse. I dont know if it "normal" or only a mentally ill person would continue to be haunted by being told this, even if he half retracted his statement. Because of this, I sent him messages after I booted him about repairing the damages of property, about being tested, and admittedly was a bitch in some texts. He has had people repeatedly call me, sent a friend to the lounge I go to w friends and tell me stuff about him to cause further anxiety. He has sent me vulgar messages about a male friend that I have and made threats. Then he went to the police and filed charges against me. I admit that I have reacted to his behavior, and I even believe that having severe anxiety problems, depression, ptsd, and a traumatic brain injury plays a large role in my reaction. During our entire relationship and after, my insurance withheld the only anti depressant that works for me, and withheld counseling. I appealled but had to wait from Sept to this April to get meds and counseling. Only after the panic attack and ER visit did I get meds back which take 4 weeks to work. I feel so much better with my anti depressant that is for anxiety too. Counseling was finally approved. I have read the texts I sent him and would not do so today.
We are all responsible for our own behavior. There is no doubt in my mind that if I had my medication during this period, I would have been calmer and not reacted to his words or behavior in the same way. Even so, I never went near his home, avoided places that he goes, I have not seen him at all, I never made a threat of any sort. I did say that I wanted him to be tested. I did say that if I have to wait 6 months and am positive-I will pursue it legally. He made many threats, called me c*nt, skank, etc, made fun of my grandaughter who is mentally retarded. In our state, there is no harrassment, it falls under Stalking now, so he charged me with stalking.
If I am in the grocery store with a cart full of food and he comes in-I am to leave or can be arrested. He drives down my street. Somebody threw a metal beer bottle at my house, overturned my garbage can, and I continue to get blocked phone calls. My friends say I need to file charges as I did make a report about property damage long ago in case I had to do an insurance claim. The police asked me then if I wanted to press charges and I told them that he said he would fix the items and I did not want to jump the gun, I wanted to give him a chance to make it right first. Boy, I can see how he set me up. Very calculated and clever.
So this thread really hits a nerve with me at the moment. However, (I think because I am on the right medication now) I am not blowing this out of proportion. I have trouble focusing, but am trying to just collect the documentation to defend myself and place charges on him as well. Of course I am upset about this, yet I am able to find humor at the moment, or at least this far. I am the furthest thing from a stalker but I did open my big mouth and text him things that I thought. It may become very hard to continue to find humor, but right now, (even though I do not take this lightly), I am too serious of a person usually and am finding humor that this idiot is able to tie up the court system with such nonsense. However, I also worked with domestic violence for almost 10 years until 2008. The laws have not been changed to help the victims, the laws have been changed to create jobs for prosecutors, magistrates, increase police force, grant money for jobs related. At the end of the day, we were better off in 1980, when the husband drug you down the hall by your pony tail, you could grab your skillet and wack him over the head. Nobody cared about victims then, there was no protective orders, and now, if you self defend and he has a scratch-you will be the one in jail. Its all about money to feed into the system and our tax dollars are paying for it. I will write a book before the end of my life. I have started it but there is just so much to say.
I apologize for the length and did not mean to get so carried away with how the bad people get away with such things, but I have a problem explaining without being or showing some specifics at times. I dont know if others can related to this-I hope so, and that I have not offended anyone.
