How can you help me

[abovedown]

What kind of coaching you can do? What are your specialities?

 

[Joy Palmer]

What kind of coaching you can do? What are your specialities?

I specialize in life coaching for individuals who are dealing with PTSD or CPTSD, as well as providing support for their spouses, family, and friends. My coaching approach is focused on goal-setting and accountability, helping clients identify and achieve their desired outcomes in various areas of their lives, such as relationships, career, and mental health. I use open-ended questions and statements to guide clients towards discovering the best solutions for their unique circumstances. It is my goal to help clients track their progress, overcome obstacles, and provide the tools and support they need to stay on track.

 

[abovedown]

What kind of goals could I set in my private life and work life?
1. I have a work I mostly enjoy. I am a bit unclear whst kind of work I am going to do in 5-10 years
2. I think I have pstd with anxiety but I am not sure how to proceed with it
3. I want to be more involved with my church but I am timerestricted because of my hectic career situation
4. I have friends and even close ones but I still occasional feel lonely
5. I want to limit or stop following news cycle because the constant drama gives me anxiety and most of things are those I can't possibly to do anything about. I want to focus more on my local community which I can have more effect on but I am not sure how

 

[Joy Palmer]

What kind of goals could I set in my private life and work life?
1. I have a work I mostly enjoy. I am a bit unclear whst kind of work I am going to do in 5-10 years
2. I think I have pstd with anxiety but I am not sure how to proceed with it
3. I want to be more involved with my church but I am timerestricted because of my hectic career situation
4. I have friends and even close ones but I still occasional feel lonely
5. I want to limit or stop following news cycle because the constant drama gives me anxiety and most of things are those I can't possibly to do anything about. I want to focus more on my local community which I can have more effect on but I am not sure how

In your private life and work life, here are some possible goals you could set:

1. Work-Life Direction: Define your long-term career goals and envision the kind of work you would like to do in 5-10 years. Create an action plan to explore different options and gain clarity about your future career path.

2. Addressing PTSD and Anxiety: Take steps to address your potential PTSD and anxiety. This may include seeking professional support, such as therapy or counseling, to help you understand and manage your symptoms effectively.

3. Engaging with Church: Explore ways to be more involved with your church within your time limitations. Consider volunteering for specific tasks or finding opportunities that align with your skills and interests. Look for ways to make meaningful contributions, even if it's on a smaller scale.

4. Cultivating Social Connections: Develop strategies to enhance your friendships and address occasional feelings of loneliness. This could involve initiating social activities, connecting with others who share similar interests, or joining social groups or clubs where you can meet new people and establish deeper connections.

5. Limiting News Consumption: Create a plan to limit or stop following the constant news cycle that causes anxiety. Identify alternative sources of information that focus on your local community and align with your desire to make a local impact. Explore ways to stay informed while maintaining boundaries that support your mental well-being.

Remember, these are just examples, and it's important to personalize your goals based on your values, priorities, and circumstances. As your life coach, I will help you explore these areas further, set specific goals, and support you in creating actionable steps towards achieving them.

 

[abovedown]

How can I learn to live one day at a time rather than living constantly living in catastrophising what happens tomorrow, next week or next year and trying how to solve this imaginary scenarios that have not even happened? Why do people do catastrophising?

 

[Joy Palmer]

How can I learn to live one day at a time rather than living constantly living in catastrophising what happens tomorrow, next week or next year and trying how to solve this imaginary scenarios that have not even happened? Why do people do catastrophising?

Learning to live one day at a time and reducing catastrophizing tendencies can be challenging, but it is certainly achievable. Here are some strategies to help:

1. Mindfulness and Grounding Techniques: Practice mindfulness exercises and grounding techniques to bring yourself back to the present moment whenever you notice your mind wandering into catastrophic thinking. Techniques such as deep breathing, body scans, or using your senses to focus on your surroundings can help anchor you in the present.

2. Challenge Negative Thoughts: When catastrophizing thoughts arise, consciously challenge them by asking yourself if there is evidence to support these thoughts. Look for more realistic and balanced perspectives on the situation. Consider seeking out evidence to contradict your catastrophic assumptions.

3. Cognitive Restructuring: Learn to reframe your thoughts by replacing catastrophic or negative thoughts with more positive and realistic ones. Reframing involves consciously replacing irrational thoughts with rational ones.

4. Shift Your Focus: Redirect your attention to things that are within your control and in the present moment. Rather than dwelling on future scenarios, focus on the tasks, activities, or relationships that bring you joy or provide a sense of meaning and purpose in the present.

5. Self-Care: Prioritize self-care activities that help reduce stress and anxiety. Engage in activities that promote relaxation, such as exercise, meditation, hobbies, or spending time in nature. Taking care of your physical and mental well-being can help shift your focus away from catastrophic thinking.

People often engage in catastrophizing due to underlying anxiety, fear of the unknown, or a desire to feel in control. It can also be a learned behavior or a result of previous traumatic experiences. Recognizing the patterns and triggers that lead to catastrophizing can assist you in addressing and managing these tendencies effectively.

As your life coach, I can help you explore these thought patterns, provide tools and techniques to challenge and reframe them, and support you in developing a more positive and grounded perspective. Remember, practice and patience are key as you work towards living one day at a time.

 

[abovedown]

How could I do point 4 in detail? Can you give me specific goals?

 

[Joy Palmer]

How could I do point 4 in detail? Can you give me specific goals?

Certainly! Here are some specific goals related to shifting your focus and living in the present moment:

1. Incorporate Mindfulness Practice: Set a goal to practice mindfulness for a specific amount of time each day. Start with a few minutes and gradually increase the duration. You can use guided meditation apps, online resources, or attend mindfulness classes to learn and implement mindfulness techniques effectively.

2. Engage in Flow Activities: Identify activities that bring you joy and help you enter a state of flow where you lose track of time and become fully absorbed. Examples could include hobbies like painting, playing a musical instrument, gardening, or engaging in physical activities like dancing, running, or yoga. Set a goal to engage in at least one flow activity per week.

3. Create a Gratitude Practice: Develop a daily gratitude practice by setting aside a few minutes each day to reflect on and write down things you are grateful for. This can help shift your focus towards positive aspects of your life and increase your sense of contentment. Aim to write down at least three things you are grateful for each day.

4. Schedule Time for Relaxation: Dedicate specific time each week for relaxation activities that help you unwind and recharge. It could be taking a bubble bath, getting a massage, reading a book, or practicing deep breathing exercises. Set a goal to engage in a relaxation activity at least once a week.

5. Practice Mindful Eating: Cultivate mindful eating habits by focusing on the sensations, flavors, and textures of the food you consume. Avoid distractions while eating, such as scrolling through your phone or watching TV. Set a goal to have at least one meal each day in which you practice mindful eating.

Remember, these goals are just suggestions. Feel free to customize and adapt them to fit your specific preferences and lifestyle. As your life coach, I can work with you to create a more detailed plan, break down the goals into actionable steps, and provide ongoing support and accountability to help you shift your focus and live more in the present moment.

 

[abovedown]

Can you explain me in layman terms what mindfulness is? What is flow or flow activities?

 

[Joy Palmer]

Can you explain me in layman terms what mindfulness is? What is flow or flow activities?

Certainly! I'll explain these concepts in simpler terms:

Mindfulness: Mindfulness is the practice of paying attention to the present moment on purpose, without judgment. It involves bringing your awareness to your thoughts, feelings, bodily sensations, and the environment around you. It's about being fully present and engaged in the current experience, rather than getting caught up in worries about the past or future. Mindfulness helps you tune in to the here and now, allowing you to respond to situations with greater clarity and calmness.

Flow or Flow Activities: Flow refers to a state of being completely absorbed and fully engaged in an activity. It's when you are so focused and immersed in an activity that time seems to fly by and you experience a sense of energized focus. During flow, you may feel a deep sense of enjoyment, heightened concentration, and a loss of self-consciousness. Flow activities are typically ones that challenge you just enough to keep you engaged but not too much to overwhelm you. They often tap into your skills and passions, bringing you a sense of fulfillment and satisfaction. Examples of flow activities could be playing a musical instrument, painting, writing, dancing, playing sports, or solving puzzles.

In summary, mindfulness is about being present in the moment, paying attention to your thoughts and feelings without judgment. Flow is a state of complete immersion and enjoyment in an activity that brings you joy and challenges you in a balanced way. Both mindfulness and flow activities can help you shift your focus, reduce stress, and enhance your overall well-being.

 

[abovedown]

How can be more in tune with my feelings?

 

[Joy Palmer]

How can be more in tune with my feelings?

Being more in tune with your feelings is an important aspect of self-awareness and emotional well-being. Here are some strategies to help you become more in tune with your feelings:

1. Practice Mindfulness: As mentioned earlier, mindfulness can help you tune in to your present moment experience, including your emotions. Set aside regular time to practice mindfulness, whether through meditation, deep breathing exercises, or simply taking a few minutes to observe your thoughts and emotions without judgment.

2. Identify and Label Emotions: Start by increasing your emotional vocabulary and learning to identify and label different emotions. This can help you become more aware of what you're feeling in various situations. Try to put words to your emotional experiences, such as "I'm feeling sad," "I'm feeling anxious," or "I'm feeling excited." The more you can identify and name your emotions, the easier it becomes to understand and manage them.

3. Check-In with Yourself: Throughout the day, take brief moments to check-in with yourself and ask how you're feeling. Pause and pay attention to the sensations in your body, any thoughts or mental chatter, and the emotions that may be present. This practice of self-reflection can help you become more attuned to your emotional state.

4. Journaling: Consider journaling as a way to explore and express your emotions. Set aside time each day or week to write about your thoughts, feelings, and experiences. This can help you process and gain insights into your emotions. Write freely without judgment or censorship.

5. Seek Feedback from Others: Engage in open and honest conversations with trusted friends, family members, or a therapist about your feelings. Sharing your emotions with others can provide new perspectives and insights into your emotional experiences.

6. Practice Self-Compassion: Remember to be kind and compassionate toward yourself as you navigate your emotions. Understand that all emotions are valid and part of the human experience. Cultivating self-compassion can help you create a safe and non-judgmental space for exploring and accepting your feelings.

Becoming more in tune with your feelings is an ongoing practice that takes time and patience. By incorporating these strategies into your daily routine, you can develop greater emotional awareness and improve your ability to understand and navigate your emotions effectively.