Lucky Laser
Gold Member
I've found that most people respond pretty well to my experiences. But usually I don't share them unless I am feeling very close with that person already and a subject is already being talked about that lends itself well to stepping through that door. I don't share with a lot of people so my view is probably biased.
Now when it first happened my Mom responded by making the perpetrator's name a dirty word and never really speaking of it again other than in disgust. My Mom tended at that time to be the stereotypical Chinese woman and conveyed the idea that feeling negatively is just unacceptable. That was hard and not being able to talk about it back then probably contributes significantly to my difficulties with it now.
Recently my mother has been through some deep depression herself and in fact the other day she held me while I cried about what happened! After about 10 years... what a breakthrough. :)
Now when it first happened my Mom responded by making the perpetrator's name a dirty word and never really speaking of it again other than in disgust. My Mom tended at that time to be the stereotypical Chinese woman and conveyed the idea that feeling negatively is just unacceptable. That was hard and not being able to talk about it back then probably contributes significantly to my difficulties with it now.
Recently my mother has been through some deep depression herself and in fact the other day she held me while I cried about what happened! After about 10 years... what a breakthrough. :)
