Poll How Do You Feel Most Comfortable Communicating Intimate Feelings Of Sadness Or Pain?

[RubyNicole]

When I feel negative emotions that make me feel not in control- sad, hurt, or sick- I often have trouble saying how I feel, but often can write how I feel and show it to someone. Does anyone else feel this way ever?

 

[Marie E.]

I can't, just can't! It is the hardest thing in the world for me to do if any!!

 

[Grace11]

It depends on what my feelings are...if they involve a person who is currently in my life, I will tell them and it's definitely all verbal. When my feelings are centered on events or on people I can no longer speak to, I write.

 

[Tinyflame]

I think feeling sick, sad or hurt makes me feel like a greater burden, that somehow I've ~failed, so I don't want to say anything.

I guess that's why, as regards the other thread, that I don't feel 'survivor' applies, and I don't feel 'sufferer' applies exactly either, because that infers an empathy I don't 'qualify' for, because unfortunately ptsd involves feeling sad, sick or hurt often, so it feels/ is like being a burden and even more burdensome (a greater burden) if you talk about it.
Also, it's so frequent I just think why say anything?, it's just the way it goes with ptsd.

 

[Marie E.]

(((Big Hugs))) to you JuneBug!!!!

 

[Tinyflame]

Dear Marie E., Thank you, you are very sweet, (((Hugs + +))), back to you.
-I felt badly after I posted, didn't mean it to sound so negative, it's a good topic.

 

[jo may]

I find it much easier to write down how I'm feeling and to show that letter to my GP. I can talk sometimes but I get panicky and fidget a lot.

 

[Orsino]

I write it. I find it hard to let just anyone in though, currently the only person I allow to see the things I write is my fiance who has access to the online tumblr journal I use when i need it.

 

[Lionheart]

I can tell a person how I feel verbally, but a lot of times I have to write about what I am feeling first, to help me identify the emotions. I am open about my feelings with family and support people primarily, friends outside of support peeps have to establish some trust with me before I will be very open about my intimate feelings.

 

[SadDreamer]

I can't really accurately communicate my pain to others, nor do I desire to. The only outlet I have is through singing in my car to songs that I can relate to, playing my guitar, or through my art and photography. Other than that, I think i have shared more on this forum about my PTSD than I ever have in my life. And I've only been here two days. I think it is much easier to write than to speak it.

 

[Deleted member 1860]

I said non-verbal, but didn't mean by writing or signing.

I'm not surprised that a lot use non-verbal means as the verbal parts of our brain literally shut down when we're triggered.