And yet, I'm wrong sometimes
in fact, the problem was ME, seeing "problems" that weren't really there, they were shadows of things long past.
The only feelings I'm ever aware of connecting with her are apprehension, fear, dread, failure, etc.[/
.[QUOTW="scout86, post:1034506, member: 22240"]I don't have any perception of "being robbed" of anything. I have no connection to the idea of having missed, or needing anything I didn't get. I have no particular feeling about it at all,
I don't just say I have no feelings about my childhood, I actually have no feelings, or minimal feelings. It was what it was, I made it out. So it's hard to see it as either denial OR a problem. It just was what it was. Could have been better, but certainly could have been worse. For me, it doesn't morph into fears as much
As a kid I didn't so much feel unsafe as unwanted. And, I'm sure, to some degree, I've learned to minimize stuff and deal with it on my own because it worked. And because there weren't a lot of options. So I probably DO have a different way of perceiving "problems".